I'm not sure what to do or if there is anything I can do...my husband and I are now at a point where he wants to get a divorce...because his mother called me and I confided in her that me and my husband are on rocky terms for now. According to him we are not suppose to talk to his parents or let them in on any part of our lives, I wasn't supposed to but I did...and then days later she left him a voicemail saying not to break his family apart.
UGHHH I am so mad...now he's saying we don't have any trust in our relationship...but when he confronted me about speaking to her I did say I talked to her but briefly and that she called me at work! which was true, and I sort of downplayed it when I should'nt have...but according to him I should have had the will power to say< I don't wanna talk to you!>
Now I am rambling...crap...now what am I going to do? I was scared about how he would react to tell him right after the conversation w/ his mom...we uste to be really close w/ his parents and now I am to blame...
but, something tells me in the back of my head that he was just fishing for something to break us apart...I told him that this is just the easy way out for him...and he tells me not to say that because how can he work something out w/ someone he doesn't trust now?
Now he would wonder what other things I would do to betray him...and that he never should have wasted all this time w/ me, had a baby w/ me, etc. etc. I told him I was sorry...but it doesn't matter to him anymore...
I'm almost ready to give up, sell our house and live w/ my mother(who doesn't know anything about whats going on). Could he possibly be so scared to get help, that he is amplifing this to be a bigger deal then it really is?:doh:He says he didn't fight and survive a war just so it can later be used against him...he says I don't understand that...and that when any little thing goes wrong I want to pull out the PTSD card on him...this is the first time I've ever brought it up! ..
it is not true though I just want to learn how to live w/ it..I am soooo upset and in tears...I Love my husband but he just keeps pushing me further and further away.:frown:
UGHHH I am so mad...now he's saying we don't have any trust in our relationship...but when he confronted me about speaking to her I did say I talked to her but briefly and that she called me at work! which was true, and I sort of downplayed it when I should'nt have...but according to him I should have had the will power to say< I don't wanna talk to you!>
Now I am rambling...crap...now what am I going to do? I was scared about how he would react to tell him right after the conversation w/ his mom...we uste to be really close w/ his parents and now I am to blame...
but, something tells me in the back of my head that he was just fishing for something to break us apart...I told him that this is just the easy way out for him...and he tells me not to say that because how can he work something out w/ someone he doesn't trust now?
Now he would wonder what other things I would do to betray him...and that he never should have wasted all this time w/ me, had a baby w/ me, etc. etc. I told him I was sorry...but it doesn't matter to him anymore...
I'm almost ready to give up, sell our house and live w/ my mother(who doesn't know anything about whats going on). Could he possibly be so scared to get help, that he is amplifing this to be a bigger deal then it really is?:doh:He says he didn't fight and survive a war just so it can later be used against him...he says I don't understand that...and that when any little thing goes wrong I want to pull out the PTSD card on him...this is the first time I've ever brought it up! ..
it is not true though I just want to learn how to live w/ it..I am soooo upset and in tears...I Love my husband but he just keeps pushing me further and further away.:frown: