I am surprised to see so little first responders here.......But thought I would ask anyway.
I realize comradery at the station is vital. I appreciate that and know safety and trust must be there for a successful career in the fire service. But what has happened in my particular situation is a hiding of particular PTSD signs.... I know they MUST see what we see at home. I know they do bc at his old station they finally contacted me when he was out of control and the major said he would no longer cover for him. (Back story, this was 5 years of untreated PTSD that lead to all kinds of messes and finally involved the major. So, he went to short-term treatment came out "ok"....did counseling for a couple of months and took 3 months off and just now returned.) They moved him to a new station a busier one actually and he is displaying symptoms. I know PTSD is finally being looked at within the first responder community. How do you reach out as a spouse without jeopardizing his reputation or him hating you? He really isn't well and I can not handle another 2 years of what transpired these last 2....
Also, How is it he can go to work be capable of doing what he does take care of station life and come home and either rage, avoid, hypervigilance...etc. How can he turn off those for work?
Thanks for any input........that last part has been a question in my head for some time..........I appreciate any and all responses
I realize comradery at the station is vital. I appreciate that and know safety and trust must be there for a successful career in the fire service. But what has happened in my particular situation is a hiding of particular PTSD signs.... I know they MUST see what we see at home. I know they do bc at his old station they finally contacted me when he was out of control and the major said he would no longer cover for him. (Back story, this was 5 years of untreated PTSD that lead to all kinds of messes and finally involved the major. So, he went to short-term treatment came out "ok"....did counseling for a couple of months and took 3 months off and just now returned.) They moved him to a new station a busier one actually and he is displaying symptoms. I know PTSD is finally being looked at within the first responder community. How do you reach out as a spouse without jeopardizing his reputation or him hating you? He really isn't well and I can not handle another 2 years of what transpired these last 2....
Also, How is it he can go to work be capable of doing what he does take care of station life and come home and either rage, avoid, hypervigilance...etc. How can he turn off those for work?
Thanks for any input........that last part has been a question in my head for some time..........I appreciate any and all responses