Nicolette,
I agree with the others that say don't push it or try to force yourself to remember. All that does is frustrate you and make you feel like you're failing to remember what you 'should'. If you do remember any sexual abuse, it will come to you in pieces at a time. It's almost like your brain gives you puzzle pieces and you have to put the puzzle together for yourself.
If it does come to you that you were sexually abused as a child, it might answer a lot of lingering questions that you have. At least that's been my experience. Suddenly things you do, say and think make so much more sense when viewed through a different set of circumstances.
Reading the title of your post was like a kick in the chest. I'm so sorry that this has intruded into your life. Especially at such a love-filled, happy time like this. I think the advice to not deal with this until after your wedding in a great one.
Hang tough, hon.
Lisa
I agree with the others that say don't push it or try to force yourself to remember. All that does is frustrate you and make you feel like you're failing to remember what you 'should'. If you do remember any sexual abuse, it will come to you in pieces at a time. It's almost like your brain gives you puzzle pieces and you have to put the puzzle together for yourself.
If it does come to you that you were sexually abused as a child, it might answer a lot of lingering questions that you have. At least that's been my experience. Suddenly things you do, say and think make so much more sense when viewed through a different set of circumstances.
Reading the title of your post was like a kick in the chest. I'm so sorry that this has intruded into your life. Especially at such a love-filled, happy time like this. I think the advice to not deal with this until after your wedding in a great one.
Hang tough, hon.
Lisa