I'm just wondering if others here have noticed any need to control being heightened, as in, feeling the need to control people or even inanimate objects...like the printer that didn't work for me yesterday and I kept yelling at it!
I'm not sure if this is something that is due to trauma or if I am just a control freak?
I've always prided myself on being the sort of person that doesn't want to be controlled or control anyone else, but I've noticed in my external reality I seem to attract controlling people and, recently on the other forum I frequent I started a thread about communicating open and honestly with my father about some issues that have come up for me.
Some people there gave their two cents worth and basically said that their truth is they have no boundaries because nothing can harm them emotionally. I'm learning to stand up for myself and place boundaries, which I think is healthy but I am having these people impose their version of the truth on me, and when I reject it I get accused of having control issues or get asked "why do you feel the need to control everything around you?"
I suppose it's hard to convey on a screen without giving the context or the exact post interactions, but it has made me wonder whether I am acting in a controlling manner lately, and if it is because of the sexual assault and the trauma?
Can anyone offer some light here?
I'm not sure if this is something that is due to trauma or if I am just a control freak?
I've always prided myself on being the sort of person that doesn't want to be controlled or control anyone else, but I've noticed in my external reality I seem to attract controlling people and, recently on the other forum I frequent I started a thread about communicating open and honestly with my father about some issues that have come up for me.
Some people there gave their two cents worth and basically said that their truth is they have no boundaries because nothing can harm them emotionally. I'm learning to stand up for myself and place boundaries, which I think is healthy but I am having these people impose their version of the truth on me, and when I reject it I get accused of having control issues or get asked "why do you feel the need to control everything around you?"
I suppose it's hard to convey on a screen without giving the context or the exact post interactions, but it has made me wonder whether I am acting in a controlling manner lately, and if it is because of the sexual assault and the trauma?
Can anyone offer some light here?