As I've started to deal with having PTSD, I've been looking back: My mother's murder; My uncle abandoning me. Then I look more recently at my failed relationships, and one thing (among many) that I can see as a real problem is my codependence.
I've never been overly social, but when I'm in a relationship, my friends say I become MIA. I spend my time at home, and expect my (now ex-)wife or girlfriend to stay home with me, even though one thing I liked about them is that they are independent, social people. If they do go out, I figure they don't love me and are going to leave me.
I can barely even do basic things like paying the bills without someone else reminding me to.
One psychiatrist that I spoke to said what I need more than anything is a mother. He was half-joking, of course, but it makes sense. My mother died when I was 7. From a lot of the things that I've read about PTSD, the sufferer mentally remains at about the age that the trauma happened. Well, not completely, but in certain ways.
Does anyone else see codependence as part of their PTSD? How are you trying to deal with it, without destroying your relationships?
I've never been overly social, but when I'm in a relationship, my friends say I become MIA. I spend my time at home, and expect my (now ex-)wife or girlfriend to stay home with me, even though one thing I liked about them is that they are independent, social people. If they do go out, I figure they don't love me and are going to leave me.
I can barely even do basic things like paying the bills without someone else reminding me to.
One psychiatrist that I spoke to said what I need more than anything is a mother. He was half-joking, of course, but it makes sense. My mother died when I was 7. From a lot of the things that I've read about PTSD, the sufferer mentally remains at about the age that the trauma happened. Well, not completely, but in certain ways.
Does anyone else see codependence as part of their PTSD? How are you trying to deal with it, without destroying your relationships?