Our niece Evie (batgirl) was admitted to hospital about an hour ago, for better pain management. She has cancer and her pain has been horrific as of late. After returning home, Jim and I had a long discussion about Evie. We realized we are very relieved she's in hospital, not only for her sake, but for ours as well! It seems we need a bit of a break from her. The physical illness coupled with her PTSD symptoms have made for some pretty intense times lately. It will be so nice to be able to relax for a while!
Well, Jim then said he felt rather guilty about that, and I admitted I did too. We know that our feelings are normal and that we must take care of ourselves as well. I well remember being happy when our kids were away for a bit and we could be alone together, and this is a very similar feeling. However in Evie's case, her being so ill and needing so much support, I feel rather nasty for being glad she's not home.
She's pretty sharp however... just before we left her she said in all seriousness, "I hope you two enjoy your break from me!" So if even Evie realizes we need a break, why do I feel so guilty right now?
Well, Jim then said he felt rather guilty about that, and I admitted I did too. We know that our feelings are normal and that we must take care of ourselves as well. I well remember being happy when our kids were away for a bit and we could be alone together, and this is a very similar feeling. However in Evie's case, her being so ill and needing so much support, I feel rather nasty for being glad she's not home.
She's pretty sharp however... just before we left her she said in all seriousness, "I hope you two enjoy your break from me!" So if even Evie realizes we need a break, why do I feel so guilty right now?