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    General How to mentally heal?

    Dear Abandon, The double standard and the lack of empathy is typical....unfortunately it feels so personal. It feels like we are under attack.. Sometimes it hard not to buy into their on reality. When my partner started to yell at me unprovoked and was uncontrollable.. I really felt that it...
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    My ptsd partner left me - now what?

    Unfortunately, that's true, things don't get better over time...without therapy.. I get frustrated when people say or think that love can cure everything.. Or that he should get over it.. Mine got worse, actually when we met he was fine (was seeing a therapist at the time, that some how...
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    General How to mentally heal?

    Unfortunately it is a very common situation that people with unresolved anger issues hurt the people that cares for them the most.its a mechanisms that I don't understand, but I had a very similar experience with my long term partner (who suffered repeatedchiald abuse) we were togheter 20 years...
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    Fight/flight/freeze - is it possible to change your default response?

    Thanks for the clarification, I read the " body keeps the score", and i didn't think that the fight response is a desirable response ...to have in everyday life.. However, a therapist that I saw initially was surprised that I didn't fight back when my ex partner that suffers cPTSD nacame...
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    My ptsd partner left me - now what?

    Thanks for this post but even the terapist told me that, my partner of 20years will call me every day at 5 to know when I was coming back home from work, wouldn't go anywhere without me..and then he was retraumatized by his family and he isolated himself and us and them he started yelling me...
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    Hate...Anger...Madness...Upset...Irritated.... It is all the same to me.

    This way of thinking reminds me very much of my Ex (I came in this forum as a supporter my ex husband has cptsd). You are overanalyzing how other people make friends and you noticed that other people hear more popular and make more friends.. My ex was always complaining that he didn't know how...
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    how do I start healing?

    My cPTSD husban of 20 years started to be syntomatic a year or so ago, and just yelled me get the f**** out of the house or was silent for 6 months, then asked me to sig e the house back to him for 10 dollars, see my previous posts...finally I moved out ..because despite me giving space and not...
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    General Should i sign the documents?

    How do I heal? After 10 days of me moving out of our house he finally agreed with the lawyer for giving me a monetary compensation in exchange of me signing the house him. I had to make the offer, it a generous offer, but it better than nothing (he asked me to sign for 10 dollars). It it...
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    Supporter Still baffled

    The lawyer called that he finally agreed to my very generous offer!! I want to tell him that hope that one day he can tell to his father how much he was hurt by his abuse (instead of going nuts with me). I hope that he can find the strength to break free from his family (and their abusive way)...
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    Supporter Still baffled

    It breaks my heart but I am moving out. Apparently, he still wants me to move out ,but then he keeps delaying coming to an agreement about buying me out of the house. One day he told me that he was fine with my final offer. I told him I don't want to pay too much in legal fees and he counter...
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    Childhood Not sure if this is the right place or i am just wasting your time.

    It is considered abuse even in families were spanking is used for correcting certain behavior. I wouldn't say countries, every family is different. My father was never spanked, neither his parents but my mother was. My partner of 20 years soon to be ex was abused just like you, similar...
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    Do you talk to the other parent, the one who didn't protect you?

    I am happy that you are finally on the right path and are finding some healing from your trauma. I think that my partner all these years also tr ui ed to get the approval from his father ...and also let his father and what happened to him control his life..he never wanted to have kids due his...
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    General Should i sign the documents?

    During the sad moments I go back and forth unfortunately....feeling that I could have done something..rescued him when is was there connecting with me...on all levels.. But then I am trying hard to stick what the rational part of my brain is telling me... Thanks, The input I received her has...
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    General Should i sign the documents?

    He has been projecting..telling me that I was selfish, crazy, depressed, and self centered .initially I didn't know what was going on. I didn't understand Why all the sudden he was behaving like his father minus the physical abuse, he never touched me ( he hates his father) .one day my partner...
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    General Should i sign the documents?

    Thanks, I don't know why I doubt my judgement so much, It is like I lost common sense I feel guilty about his situation despite I was not my fault. He was seeing a therapist when we met , but he stopped after he changed health insurance. Thanks, You are spot on. He wants solitude and...
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