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    Relationship 3 Months Today

    Discarded, my heart goes out to you. I am very sorry. I am however glad your counselor is talking to you. I too am in therapy and I most times feel like she just nods and says "that is hard". Well I knew that! I don't know what state you are in or how divorce works there. My only...
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    Relationship 3 Months Today

    Thinking of you. Praying for your strength. It is very hard to see someone you love suffer so greatly and how it affects the family. I was having an internal conversation with myself recently. Feeling angry and hurt that my sufferer had just left. That he got to choose what happened to us...
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    General Listening, Learning And Being Thankful

    Eleanor, I have been deep in thought about all of these things daily. We did have dinner, and did not address our situation. When texting later, it seems that what I want may not be part of the equation. He told me he loves me, but that he also wants to be alone. My boundary is being...
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    Relationship My Deployed Fiancee Is Struggling With His Emotions, Please Help

    I am by no means knowledgeable about PTSD. I am still here learning myself. I can however say that your words seem oh so familiar to me. My boyfriend is recently retired. He spent many years overseas while serving in special forces. Deployed again and again and fought the last 3...
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    General Well, Poor Mr. Ptsd

    LoveHimThroughThis, I am so very sorry for all that has happened to you recently. I think it is an example of what I myself fear will be the outcome of my relationship. I have read many of your posts and see some similarities. I am curious and wonder if you feel like sharing if you saw...
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    General Listening, Learning And Being Thankful

    I am thankful to have found this forum. I have been reading a great deal of posts and trying to allow them to sink in. I still find myself with many questions and unknowns. It has been just over a week now that my boyfriend has been staying "at his room". We text generally every day. We...
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    Last Piece Of Business

    I think relief and might be an easier term to use. I can't imagine ever feeling happy about divorce. It is painful. I know I felt very much like a failure. Please be kind to yourself during this difficult time.
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    I Want To Understand Combat Ptsd!

    We are not engaged. However I made a commitment as strong in my heart. There was a time when he told me he wanted to marry me, and grow old together. He says nothing has changed, but that he needs to work through some things. He never exactly says what. As it seems with many who suffer with...
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    Supporter I'm The Discarded Result Of My Partners Ptsd

    I am so very sorry. I was reading some statistics on PTSD and soldiers last night. It helped me to know I am not alone in this. You are not alone either.
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    I Want To Understand Combat Ptsd!

    Thank you all for your considerate responses. I have been reading a lot, trying to understand. Even in all the reading, and trying to understand my heart still feels like he is being selfish. I know that he is in a dark place, and it is difficult to see him hurt. I do have to take care of...
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    Last Piece Of Business

    My divorce was final January 2011 (after having been kicked out of the house a mere 50 days prior). I am still on the house. This was helpful to me. My ex-husband forced a no lawyer situation. I assumed he'd take care of these things. He is getting remarried in 15 days and I think it is...
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    I Want To Understand Combat Ptsd!

    I am going to try and type this again. My computer is giving me horrible problems, and erasing my posts!!! I may make my post in small increments. This is my 4th attempt, so forgive me if with each attempt my story has become shorter. :mad: Thursday of last week the boyfriend was making his...
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    I Want To Understand Combat Ptsd!

    LizardViolet, I think he is in a waiting pattern for things to come through with the VA??? However it is also going to take him making it a priority. Thank you for your response. I am a little unsure about having books around about PTSD. I am worried he will be upset/stressed by this...
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    Understanding Ptsd - By Anthony Parsons

    Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!!! I am beyond grateful... not sure about hopeful yet... but will keep reading and trying to learn. Just a bit of an understanding goes so far in the ability to accept certain behaviors. Like sleeping a lot. Now I can look at it like he is letting his cup...
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    I Want To Understand Combat Ptsd!

    When I first met my boyfriend it was under odd circumstances to say the least. It was over the internet and I was married. My (now ex) husband and I were having issues of our own and were experimenting with having an open relationship and alternate lifestyles. Needless to say our marriage was...
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