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    Relationship A Big Thank You... And A Piece Of Advice

    That's really useful feedback @ladee, thanks!!! I've often posted stuff hoping/wanting the response of sufferers because, as useful as it it to hear the experiences of fellow supporters, sometimes there's an element of the blind leading the blind! Hearing your views from the other perspective is...
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    Relationship A Big Thank You... And A Piece Of Advice

    @tiredtexan - I agree! @ladee we value the insight your input gives us :)
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    Relationship Overwhelmed

    Gosh! If that was "short and sweet", I dread to think how long the 'story time' version would have been!! (and I thought I could waffle!) Sorry, that's not a criticism, it's good to vent. And at least it was well split into paragraphs :tup: I think you need to take a few deep breaths, stand...
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    Relationship Girlfriend Is Distant, Yet Retains Contact

    Ok, advice? Er, stay calm, stay strong, deep breaths. Be understanding and supportive, but be assertive. Do what's best for you, because if you're not looking after yourself, you're not helping her either in the long run. Good luck, hope it gives you some sort of clarity over the situation.
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    Relationship Girlfriend Is Distant, Yet Retains Contact

    YOU haven't ruined the relationship, and you ARE strong! Keep telling yourself that, ok? Write it on the bathroom mirror, on post-it notes inside your PhD books, chant it every hour until you start believing it! You're not inadequate. This isn't your fault. It's not fair, but life will go on. My...
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    Relationship Girlfriend Is Distant, Yet Retains Contact

    Oh and by the way, not sure how much reading you've done on PTSD and how clued up you are, but I found this book really helpful (by the time I was only half way through it, he'd already left me, but I carried on reading anyway because it's helped me come to terms with things, understand and...
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    Relationship Girlfriend Is Distant, Yet Retains Contact

    Do you think you need counselling or therapy for yourself? Is that something you'd do? There's no shame in admitting you need the extra support, if you think that would help. By the way, never asked what the situation is with your girlfriend? Is she getting treatment/therapy? Have you heard of...
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    Relationship Girlfriend Is Distant, Yet Retains Contact

    No I wouldn't call it a solid vision. An artist's impression maybe!
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    Relationship Girlfriend Is Distant, Yet Retains Contact

    Oh and to answer your question: "I definitely need to recapture that, but also... I guess reconcile how I feel and what I want, how did you do this?" I don't know. I'm not really sure that I've managed to yet. It's early days. I'm just tricking myself, shutting it out. It's working, one day at a...
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    Relationship Girlfriend Is Distant, Yet Retains Contact

    Ahh I like your vision for the future! I want a self-sufficient farm, full of fruit and veg and animals that don't get eaten, a view of the sea, a creative studio where I'll do art, yoga, dance and write my best-selling novels! A workshop where the disadvantaged or disillusioned can come and...
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    Relationship Girlfriend Is Distant, Yet Retains Contact

    Goddddd PTSD is such an arse isn't it?!?!?!?! Here we are, 2 supporters (of many out there), decent, caring, loving people just wanting to and help and support and feel useful and appreciated..... and all our efforts are in vain. I feel like you need to be really selfish and focus on you now...
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    Relationship Girlfriend Is Distant, Yet Retains Contact

    I love the way you write - your words could so easily be my own. It really is a great support to be able to release all your emotions here and feel like you're understood. The joys of the internet! The no contact thing is really tough isn't it. I've struggled. I wanted to reach out to him on...
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    Relationship Girlfriend Is Distant, Yet Retains Contact

    I feel your pain so much - "how can you go from saying I'm all you want, I'm the best person you ever met, to flat out hating me" - I asked myself that question over and over. In the beginning, things were amazing, he was completely besotted, more so than I was if anything, we talked about the...
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    Relationship Girlfriend Is Distant, Yet Retains Contact

    Hello @TheMinsterman I've just discovered this thread and read it in one go! So much of what you've written I can relate to. The fact you say she's not directly abusive, but is simply negative and critical: "it's like she's forgotten all the positive traits she used to love about me" - that's...
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    Military Is This Even Ptsd??? Or Just Angry Depression?

    @Richie Thanks so much for the Rob Paxman contact, looks like it could be very useful (oh and I'm not sure what you meant by something I mentioned not being normal behaviour - the fact it's not normal for vets to talk about what they've seen or done in combat. Yeah, mine doesn't either. Did I...
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