Hi @krisss,
Here is my opinion of what I think you should do - nothing. Do nothing. Be in your pain for a while. Heal and figure out what you need to learn and to grow from this experience, wish him well and forgiveness in your heart, and then get on with your life.
He sounds very young and...
I think this is key. This is something that I do routinely and not at all consciously the first six or so episodes. But over the last six months this is exactly what I have been doing. When these breaks or isolation periods happen, I have come to realize it brings up huge issues from my past for...
Unfortunately no one can tell you what she is thinking but you might get some insight in the supporter discussion area in the thread called what are they thinking. Lots of insightful stuff there. Also a lot of insightful posts in the thread about cognitive distortion I think in this forum or...
Sure you can answer! Much appreciated. Yeah, I can see the need for time and space to reflect and sort it all out. That makes total sense. For me and on my side of things , the amount of time it takes can be agonizing! Your post here is a good reminder to me that time and space is very much...
Freida, do you come to a place later when you realize you were triggered? Sorry if I've asked you this before, I feel like I might have. If you do come to that place, are you then able to see it wasn't about the milk at all but something you need to work on?
Exactly! We have our own baggage and our own stuff we bring to these situations that make us react in ways that, while natural and understandable, are soooo not helpful! I hear ya and feel ya, Hojay! Just trying to get answers and skills to just not make things worse while also hoping to have...
He describes how after a stress response (Maybe some bad behavior) when the person comes "back to reality" they look for something or someone to blame for their reaction. "I did that because you were 10 minutes late," kind of thing. This is common in my situation unfortunately. The book is...
I agree with Sweetpea. Also, no reason for you to feel guilty. Maybe when he has gotten his space and is "back to normal" he will tell you what's going on.
I'm sorry you are feeling anxious. Totally understandable. Sounds like you are doing all you can to help alleviate that feeling. Meditating is good. Watching mindless t.v. . Reading. Anything to help you NOT think of him. He is doing what he needs to do for himself now and if he is online on...
@Brturner13 You write here you are not ok with him standing you up, but you texted him that you are not only ok with it, but you are there when he is ready to talk. You are putting yourself last here. Making it all ok for him to blow you off and come back to you whenever he feels like it and...
Thanks for sharing your vent @Murphy17. I know what you mean about reading and learning and still being caught off guard and blindsided by the behavior as if you had never read a thing. Yes, it's because we have feelings and our own stuff that comes up too. It's because there are two people in...
So if I were your friend or in some type of relationship with you, and some conflict arose between us and i felt that I needed to talk to you about it, are you able to tell me the best way to do that with you without you getting triggered or so you won't fly away? Also, what do you do to deal...