Recent content by UnicornSightings

  1. U

    Telling your therapist how you feel about them...

    Thank you, Grit! What you said has given me a lot of food for thought. Gonna chew on it for awhile.
  2. U

    Telling your therapist how you feel about them...

    It’s very comforting to hear that you were able to work through it! I asked my therapist about attachment and his experience with it (cause I feel like a freak) and he was so reassuring that it was completely ok. I said a lot of stuff I was afraid to and I did it with relative ease once I...
  3. U

    Telling your therapist how you feel about them...

    I have, just a bit ago. It went really well! I had a list of things I was ashamed of and ended up talking about all but 2 of them. Like I didn’t hand it to him, I looked him in the eye when we talked about it. I was so proud! It felt so scary until I started and then the shame that I was...
  4. U

    Telling your therapist how you feel about them...

    I’m so glad you were able to get the same stuff out and that it was a positive experience for you! He knows I’m attached but not all the little things like jealousy (although I mentioned something about it yesterday on the phone with him). I have made jokes about it but haven’t ever been...
  5. U

    Telling your therapist how you feel about them...

    Good memory. I did. And I actually found a piece of paper last night that had all the reasons why I wanted to leave my last t (I used to think of terminating all the time with her and it’s starting again with the new one) and all but 3 of the reasons I listed are exactly the same for my current...
  6. U

    Telling your therapist how you feel about them...

    I had written him an email about wanting to take a break and had admitted in it that it was about the feelings I was having. He’s known for a long time that I think he thinks bad thoughts about me and that’s been a big issue and of course that relates to childhood. So does the jealousy and...
  7. U

    Telling your therapist how you feel about them...

    I guess cause it’s getting in the way of the work so therefore it becomes the work. Cause I’m gonna leave therapy over it otherwise. Cause shame needs to be talked about. Cause I don’t want to keep secrets.
  8. U

    Telling your therapist how you feel about them...

    I don’t quite know how this happened but tomorrow I will. About the childlike stuff. The jealousy when he talks about other people or clients, how I want to be friends, how I feign that our lighter sessions are a waste of time when really, afterwards, I feel a longing for that... For that kind...
  9. U

    All the connection i could possibly desire but is it healthy?

    Thanks for your reply! My t and I are in a good place. I told him about my fears of this and I feel good about it again. Our first session (through a secure messaging app) is tomorrow. The deal is I get to email him all I want during the week and he will spend 30 min reading (without replying...
  10. U

    Therapy and transference

    You can’t make the thoughts go away with force or will. I’m very sorry! It makes a lot of sense, though, right? Here is someone who cares and accepts you and makes the entire therapy hour all about YOU. YOU get all your needs met in that session from him and get his care so how could you NOT...
  11. U

    All the connection i could possibly desire but is it healthy?

    I love that your t said you can text her to know she’s there! That’s so sweet! I’m so relieved to hear it’s something that helped you. I’m gonna talk to my t about it a bit and actually gonna try to text him in session. I think that way I can get some stuff out and be in the same room and that...
  12. U

    Therapists mood

    Mine seems to only have the one “therapist” mood. Although he tells me if he feels tired or something. But he acts the same each week. I’d think that would be really hard. I can’t smile at people if I’m not feeling it so props to him.
  13. U

    All the connection i could possibly desire but is it healthy?

    There really isn’t a treatment plan though. Like EMDR is on the to-do list but other than that, I show up and say whatever. I don’t know exactly what I need to say to change myself in the ways I want so I don’t really say a whole lot at all about my own stuff. And it’s good for the part of me...
  14. U

    All the connection i could possibly desire but is it healthy?

    I would feel so embarrassed and also horrible for making him read soooooo much at once. I don’t like making people I care about do anything for me. But there IS a lot of good stuff here and this all would be good for him to know. Hmm.
  15. U

    All the connection i could possibly desire but is it healthy?

    He’s told me countless times I can email so I’m sure it would be ok. I’M the one who thinks it’s a burden on him, not him. I really love the idea of still writing to him and think a very short reply, though somewhat disappointing, will be ok. I’m embarrassed to admit I save his responses and...
Back
Top