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I was just fired and a complete mess!

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Plan B, C, D. Or really it's 'in case my car dies, how will I get there' Plan A, B, C etc. Its how my mind works,
That's how my mind works too. And,, it can be pretty useful. Or not. Kind of like @joeylittle suggested, you can modify it.

I work really hard at only running scenarios for problems that actually exist. If I get going on all the problems that MIGHT exist, it gets overwhelming and I end up nearly immobilized. It's sometimes just to much.

In this case, the way I'd look at the transportation issue is, "it might be a long ways from the train the office. Worth noting. If it turns out to be true, that's something I'll have to deal with." But I'm not going to spend the energy dealing with it until I know what the situation really. While assessing the situation, "how am I going to get there?" is definitely something I'm going to pay attention to, but there's no sense solving the problem until you know what is. You can end up 'solving' a lot of imaginary problems. Or being so overwhelmed things get much harder than they have to be.
 
Applied for a customer service position at Aeotek, a position to help customers during the maturity level of their auto loan. Normally finacial jobs want a licence but this job didn't mention that so went ahead and applied. They wanted to know my security clerance level. A new one for me!

It is a totally different world! Almost all are contractors. Meaning they don't have to pay for health insur and I can loose my job for no reason after that contracted timeframe as they can just say they don't want you. Like working for a temp agency. I started with my old job that way and its super stressful. Doable, I think. Last time I lived in my dad's house so no rent or bills to worry with along with health insur. I just paid for Cobra. Luckily I didn't get let go but man! Still an income but with $645 or whatever gone, that's rough!
 
The job I am interviewing for is 9.1 miles from here, 15 - 20 mins. It's the closer part of Orlando. Orlando is huge so it depends on where in Orlando it's at. Altamonte Springs is directly outside of Orlando. My old job in Apopka is 8.5 miles away so 9.1 is nothing to worry about. I still need a car no matter what and I still want a "how do I get there without a car" plan. It isn't anywhere near the Sunrail station but I can take the train to downtown and then pick up the bus, as I was thinking. Maybe a few buses. It would take forever but possible. The buses stop at like 11pm or midnight. Something like that. Which is why the bus was out for my last job. But anyway.

I also need to find out what hours it is. Call center or not, most training people work something like 8am to 5pm Mon - Fri and if that's the case then I will need to tell them about my Drs as its a lot of Dr visits during business hours and they will need to let me off. I won't tell them unless that's the case or have to but that may be a deal breaker. I don't know. Just typing it out.
 
Either way, don't pull out the stuff about doctor's visits at an interview

If its 8 - 5 or 9 -6 Mon - Fri I would have no choice. I would need days off, once a week, for Drs. No employer would allow that but I can ask how that works. I won't unless I have to. If not, I would have to turn down the job. If I take a chance, if those hours and days is the case, I may be able to get the job with different hours or with exceptions or something. FMLA isn't avail for a year at any job. I may not get the job but advising is better and taking the chance they may want me bad enough to work it out rather then turn it down. I don't know if that is the case and won't advise if its not. But I don't see any other choice if it is the case.

There's also Uber in a pinch.
The public transit system in the US is shit.

Public transit isn't that bad here. It is the Orlando area thus MANY tourist. The bus here is $2. If you go from Sunrail to bus & visa versa there's a discount or it's free (can't remember which) and they go EVERYWHERE with bus stops like like 100 feet apart. Uber terrifies the f*ck out of me and way more expensive then the bus. You are alone in a car with a stranger. The reason that I only took a taxi one time in my entire life. Same deal with a taxi. So I'd rather figure the bus out and do Uber as a last resort.
 
It's marketing! Face to face marketing. He said their biggest client is AT@T and a spin off of Staples (or a branch of Staples) and I believe it's face to face. I cannot do door to door but if it's like driving to a store and talking to the store (or an office) then I may be able to do that. Though, my car can't handle that and well, I don't know.

I am a f*cking idiot though! It was more get to know me as then they have a 2nd interview of liked canidates and so he asked what my strengths were and then he asked what I need to improve in and I could have said patience or anything but said sales! I f*cking need to improve in sales? Sales is the job! Ugh! I am so pissed at myself! And I should have said that I was looking for a job where I have room for advancement and didn't.

I didn't say anything about Drs as he never said what the hours and days were as that's in the 2nd interview but I am assuming it's business days and hours due to what the job is. He asked if I looked at their website and lied and said yes. Apparently the site I found isn't them unless there are chapters or something because their client is AT@T and they do marketing. Not sure why there was a site with their business name about hospitiality, real estate, property management. But that's not what they do so I don't know.

Ugh! I am so mad at myself and so disappointed. I feel like I wasted my time as I can self educate about a corporate position (what he said), how to effectively train/teach, interpersonal skills (f*ck! I should have lied and said I have good interpersonal skills!), etc but I can't predict if I will be able to do it. In the past I have failed miserablly in face to face. Just as a cashier, waitress, and retail in my super early years of working I was horrible at it! And today my PTSD symptoms (which I didn't really have back then. Or most of them) and fears cause me to really fail at it. Meaning I can't speak, anxiety runs wild, and I disocissate.

Ugh!!!
 
failed miserablly in face to face. Just as a cashier, waitress, and retail
I will say that the kind of face to face interaction you're talking about and what you might be doing with this company are completely different.
You would get a set number of people likely, clients, that would would interact with. IT would be building those relationships with THOSE people. It's not the same as dealing with the public, which, let's face it, is pretty terrible.

Driving to meetings might not be so bad- did they SAY you have to use your own vehicle? Is it a company car?
Likely they will give you an allowance for gas. Was a 'reliable mode of transportation' included in all of the requirements?

Breathe. One thing you have to remember is that this needs to be a good fit for BOTH you and the company not just a JOB. It actually costs quite a bit to hire someone new and invest in them - they don't want to hire and then realize down the road that one of your are unhappy and wants to leave.
 
did they SAY you have to use your own vehicle? Is it a company car?

No. He didn't say how the marketing worked but did say it wasn't a call center. He said this was a *get to know me* interview and the 2nd interview would be about the job and pay etc. He didn't ask if I had a realiable car nor did he bring my car up. I guess I am just trying to think how one would do marketing without a call center having a client like AT&T and a some branch of Staples. I am imagining it's face to face. It could be door to door and that I cannot do. He didn't ask if I could do door to door nor did he bring up how they market.

I know my brain is spinning too much. It's hard to stop it if not impossible at the moment. I make it stop spinning on worry by distraction.

I forgot to take a Xanax. I was a nervous nut job on the way there. I had forgotten my resume (which has the wrong email and a [amount] per min instead of per hour so I had to white that out and correct it by writing it in so I hope that doesn't look too unprofessional) so I had to turn around and get my resume leaving me not much time to get there and I had to cut through several residental VERY curvy road with "humps" and a dip that I missed the sign about so bottomed out my front end. Anyway, I got there right at 3pm on the dot. But my point is that didn't help the crazy anxiety on the way there and as always 1-4 was bumper to bumper crawling 10 MPH traffic. I only stayed on 1-4 for 3 exits so not bad.

Anyway, yeah, I am freaked about it but if I don't get it then oh well. I still have to apply for AppleCare but its an at home job and they normally want you to have a landline phone (our home phone is an VoIP which isn't allowed) and a computer that passes their requirements when you apply. I was planning to get a new laptop and a landline if I got a job that's work at home but I had to pass up on applying for one good work at home that's what I am looking for as they have a computer test on the application.
 
Normally finacial jobs want a licence but this job didn't mention that so went ahead and applied.
I thought you said you can't do numbers - specifically financial - due to dyslexia?
If its 8 - 5 or 9 -6 Mon - Fri I would have no choice. I would need days off, once a week, for Drs. No employer would allow that but I can ask how that works.
How it works is you make your doctor appts. for evenings, early mornings, or saturdays. That's how the working world does it.
And today my PTSD symptoms (which I didn't really have back then. Or most of them) and fears cause me to really fail at it. Meaning I can't speak, anxiety runs wild, and I disocissate.
Start working on more solid regulation skills in therapy.
 
I thought you said you can't do numbers - specifically financial - due to dyslexia?

Money as in the register. Handing out cash quickly. If it is something I can triple check a few times then its fine.

How it works is you make your doctor appts. for evenings, early mornings, or saturdays. That's how the working world does it.

Not in my world! NONE of my doctors work past 6pm and most earlier. My therapist is up to 6pm meaning I have to be there by 5pm. None of them is open Saturdays and I have only heard of one doctor in general opened Saturday and that's "The Dentist In Jeans".

ETA: And none open sooner then 8am. If I have to be at work at 8 am or even 9 am then it still won't work. I did make them all in the morning when I could work after noon or at least 10am or 11am.

Start working on more solid regulation skills in therapy.

Today as in no longer in denial. We are working on regulation skills and I am on medication for emotional regulation. I am way regulated then I have been since the entire 8 yrs of therapy but I cannot see me working face to face. Again, though, I am still applying because I don't know how much face to face it is and I also may be over estimating my deregulation of symptoms but I would rather not be face to face if I can help it. Anything is better then nothing. I will work freaking telemarketing if I have to but I would rather not. At the moment I see myself being able to be a bit picky. In a month that won't be the case. But right now I want the easiest (aka: most able to do, less to none face to face, less stressful) for the most money.
 
Applied to a job that sounds JUST like the job I just lost. It is Kelly Services, a temp agency, and it doesn't list the company and it could be the last company I worked for but the wage is way higher. It starts at $13 to $15 an hour and $15 to $17 after 90 days, depending on your State. It is work at home. If its not temp to perm, at that wage, I can find a insur company or use whatever the new health care is. I will figure it out.

The interviewer at Intercoastal Group said that they are calling today to set up a 2nd interview with those they are most intrested in. I didn't get a call today so Intercoastal Group is out. Bummer!

I am still searching and applying. I haven't done "apply all" again. I will but I want to find the right words to try to weed out the selling, telemarketing, door to door sales, and collections the best I can. Right now I have not found the right keywords to weed those out the most.

Another work at home tech support for telenetwork for cell phones I am applying to but its 6am and I haven't been to bed. I need to get onto the PC to apply as it requires a speed test result, typing test result, and PC scan result. So will need to wait on that. I will also be doing an apply all again tomorrow and will try to do it every day as well.
 
Ugh!!!!!! Spectrum IS intrested in me. They emailed me....6 DAYS AGO! It went into spam (or more accurantly gmail's updates folder) and I don't get alerts unless it goes into my primary box and I never check that unless I am looking for something. I should have kept an eye on those folders! When will I start using my brain? :banghead:

I just replied to the email:

Hi [recruter]

I just noticed that this email ended up in spam and never received it until today. I am very intrested in working for Spectrum and would love to speak to you! If you have some time I can call any day next week and any time that is good for you. Or, if you would prefer, you can reach me at [my number].

Again, I appologize for my late reply and I am hoping there is still a position available. I am ready to start work right away or can wait for a training class. I will reach out first thing Monday.

Sincerely,

[My name]

I hope that sounds ok. Either way, it sounds like I was irresponsible or something. It starts at $12.45/hr which was about what I was getting, after several raises, at the job that I just lost. Ugh I am sooo mad at myself!
 
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