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Relationship How do i leave?

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Hi @tiredtexan.

So sorry things are getting old of control for you. PTSD can suck the life out of everyone involved.

Maybe you could try a trial separation?? Remove yourself from the day to day bs for a little while. Get your thoughts and feelings in order before leaving completely. This may get him to see what he is doing to you and your relationship.

I give you mad props for staying with him while he isn't in any kind of therapy!! You are stronger than I.

I really don't have any advice as I'm in my own dysfunctional relationship. It's funny (not) because your guy sounds alot like mine and J has been in therapy for 4 years.

Keep us posted. We'll support you no matter what you decide. Good luck! XO
 
I was hoping to hear from you, @leehalf :) He actually is currently in therapy -- both individual and group. He's also prescribed meds that he takes maybe 3-5 days out of the week (hard for me to really know for sure, but he's not taking them consistently as prescribed). I hadn't really considered a trial separation. We don't live together, although we have in the past, so I would have thought the extra space -- and even just having our own spaces -- would have helped alleviate some of these things.

@Sighs, I guess the first. I don't feel at all unsafe at the moment or physically trapped. I have the means and the resources to easily end the relationship tomorrow and be okay (logistically) on my own. I actually think I'm really lucky in that regard in that I have my own place, my own income, and we don't have any shared property or other big items.

I think......I'm just really worried about him. We've had lows and I've seen him in a bad place before, but never like this. I feel like his bad coping skills are about to bite him in the ass and take us both down a dark road. I can feel it coming. And I don't know how to deal with it or how I can help.
 
Well, hell. Why did I think he wasn't in therapy??? Lol
Sometimes I think a relationship is just too much for my guy. I feel like I am a huge stressor for him. He is kind to everyone but me.
WTH do I know? I'm just living the dream.
 
Oh, mine is far from kind with everyone so that makes me feel a little better actually lol. He's a right shit to his family and close friends sometimes, but is usually perfectly friendly with strangers. The "pushing away when close" is strong in this one.
 
Does he lie about other stupid stuff too? Mine tells lies about the smallest, dumbest things and it drives me crazy, especially when it's something trivial or insignificant. Maybe that's another defense mechanism for them?
 
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