MaggieRose6117
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Is it possible that the closer I get to this guy with PTSD the more he will pull away? He tells me very personal stuff every once in a while, which is a big deal, because he says he doesn't trust anyone, not even therapists, and literally nobody cares. But when he tells me stuff, it is stressful for him. Sometimes he seems relieved and happy, but at other times he pulls away and seems deeply fearful. If I ask him to tell me more, he says, "I will be able to tell you in another week or two." It seems to cost him such a lot to pluck up courage to reveal stuff. But now it is difficult for him to even go out with me, even though I have said, "We don't have to talk, we can just relax and do nothing!" I will ask him maybe three or four times and he will say, "Give me a week, I'm too busy this week," or "I can't, let's try again next time." Once I told him it seemed like he didn't want to go and he said, "I want to go." He seems to struggle just going for a coffee. Last time he asked me if we could just walk in the park and I said that was a great idea, even better than coffee. He said he used to go to that park to get away from people when he was at university. He has spent his whole life avoiding people because they cause him such pain. Is it possible that, as we get closer and he confides in me more, that he will also be driven to avoid me more? Trying to understand how this trauma thing works.