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Silly and trivial but causing panic.

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My niece (age 7) has beautiful below the waist blond hair. She wanted to dye it purple. : )

The main thing the family was worried about is that she would regret it since hair dye is permanent. Her hair is important to her, and she would be very upset. The solution was a style that dyed the ends - easy to cut off if she changed her mind. She loved it, and it made her braids really cute.
She's now getting one purple and one turquoise stripe dyed into her hair. Her mom is fine with it as long as she saves up her own money.

Could your friend have been worried that YOU might regret your decision? That's what I would worry about for you if you had asked me.

Wishing you peace and comfort. I'm so sorry you are having such a hard time.
 
If you haven't done it yet, I hope you do.
I have hair that everybody loves. I've dyed it many colors in my life starting when I was about 13 and don't much remember the actual color. The thing with coloring your hair is that if you hate it, it can be fixed. It's your hair and you get to decide.
I don't think this is silly or trivial at all. Hair is one of the first things people look at and make impressions by.
Furthermore, I'm so sorry about your friend. Maybe something else was going on with them that they reacted that way. I hope all is not lost.
 
Do it! Do it! Do it! If for no other reason than to show yourself that you can do something wild, crazy and fun and feel good about it!

It's that exaggerated fear of consequences I have that has kept me from enjoying life.

This is a great chance to baby step into a fear of consequences.... Go to a salon and talk with someone who does color. Tell them you would like to try something but are nervous. There are a ton of options from hair chalk (just lasts till you wash it out - at any Walmart or Target) to bleaching it out completely and adding wild colors. They will be able to help you find something fun that matches who YOU are - and they will be able to walk you through how they can fix it if you hate it.

My hair sucks and I'm always jealous of my friends with fabulous hair. But y'know what? If they want to do something fun for them then I say go for it. I have NO RIGHT to tell them what they should do just because I'm jealous. But then, I'm a "woman of a certain age" who paints her fingernails bright blue and purple and sparkly on a regular basis so I may not be the right person to talk about doing things that annoys others. :p

And I don't think this is silly or trivial at all. I think it takes a lot of courage to be afraid of consequences and still do something others have told you not to do - no matter what the topic is.
 
I too had pretty hair and was always told growing up not to touch it. Men would comment on it. Eventually it felt like a bit burden. I hacked it off and dyed it. I don't regret it one bit. Sure I had a few moments of "what have I done!" but they went away. After I learned how to style it properly and what makeup went better with the color, it all got easier.

So glad I stopped listening to the opinions of others about something so trivial.
 
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