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Lying and ptsd

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I think what you are doing is appropriate @Rad. I have only read a couple of posts of this thread, but here is my two cents worth.

There are strategies that are diplomacy, tactfulness and self preservation. Your life is your life and you don't have to share or tell anyone anything that is personal, private or potentially setting yourself up to being ripped off, taken for a ride or discrimated against. There are many shades of grey. You are an adult, and you don't have to tell anyone anything that you don't want to, you don't have to be brutally honest, you don't have to disclose anything.

There is a distorted cognition as defined by David Burns which is called "Black and White" thinking. You can see the list of distorted cognitions here: Polls

If people disclose information too quickly or inappropriately I see that as a red flag and I step back.

It is no one's business how you choose to live your life. White lies to protect yourself are appropriate.

My psychiatrist pushes me to be out in the world, and not relating to people through their or my mental illness. If you choose not to go out in the world and go into that phase of your recovery, then yeah you can tell the truth everytime.

There is a lot of self indulgent bullshit on this forum, so much so I don't read around the forum much anymore. So people who choose to live within "a mental health community" can disclose their mental health status. They can say they are being "honest" but that is complete self indulgent craparama as far as I am concerned. Grow up, be appropriate, and don't spill the beans - get a good trauma therapist and do your work there - there is a reason these people train for years and get paid - it is hard work. For f*ck's sake don't listen to any of the bullshit and do what you need as an adult to keep yourself safe. Your business is no one else's business.

If you are living in the real world, in real time, then there are a different set of rules, codes, social protocols and appropriate behaviours. People who can't do this won't be hired, will be excluded from social networks, will experience discrimination and a whole host of other things. And are a pain in the arse to be around because it is always about them and their "issues".

I see people who disclose their mental health diagnosis as being inappropriate but also kind of making the whole situation about themselves and their "mental health". I avoid people like that, and the HR people I have talked to are very, very, very wary of hiring someone who discloses that during an interview. You be an adult, you get the job, and then you negotiate the reasonable accomadations that you need, if any.

As an adult, like every other adult, you have issues to deal with in your life, part of being emotionally mature is not blabbing your stuff to everyone around you. We aren't under the age of 10.

You need not to be inappropriate.
You need not to make the situation about you.
You need to take responsibility and deal with your stuff in an appropriate manner.
You need not to behave like a 10 year old.

If you hang with people whose major focus is their mental health, then you won't get well. You will end up speaking about mental health issues. You need to get out there and be proactive and make friendships based on other things like work, hobbies, volunteering etc.
 
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