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Brook
My boyfriend of two months suddenly stopped calling or texting me and has ignored me for the past two weeks. He is a combat veteran who served in Afghanistan and he has ptsd and depression. He never had any problem talking about his feelings for me, which were strong. He shared things with me about his past that were so hard for him to share that he cried. And he had even told me that he wanted to work toward marriage with me. Everything between us was literally perfect for 6 weeks before the first time he ignored me. At that time I didn’t know that he was depressed and just thought it was so strange that I hadn’t heard from him so I went over to his house to see if he was okay and that’s when I figured it out. He looked awful and said things like, “I never wanted you to see me this way.” I told him that I could be patient with him and that I wanted to be with him and we could figure things out. The rest of that week he called me a couple of times (he still didn’t sound good) and then he came over on Friday and we talked, he even tried to explain what he was going through because he said I deserved to know, and everything was good again. We spent that whole weekend together and he repeatedly apologized for ignoring me for those two days and he even bought me a present. He was so wonderful and I thought everything would go back to normal but the following week we had limited contact, as in just a few texts a day, not like we normally text, and he wasn’t calling me to talk at night anymore. The next weekend we spent Saturday and Sunday together and both were good! (Time in person was never a problem, it just seemed like he had a hard time communicating on the phone because he was overwhelmed with work during the week.) Then on Monday he called me to say goodnight, and I saw him again on Tuesday, which was also a really nice time and he was very sweet and affectionate and caring toward me, and told me he wanted to see me again on Wednesday so I told him I would make dinner for us and we were both excited! The next day I went grocery shopping and made dinner and then he texted me and said he had had a bad day and wasn’t coming. I asked him to call me and told him I had already made dinner and was a little upset, but I tried to be understanding and I told him I wasn’t mad and I could make the same thing another time. He called me again later that night to say goodnight and everything basically seemed fine except that he was acting more negative and sarcastic than usual. When we got off the phone he said he would talk to me the next day and I have yet to hear from him! That was two weeks ago and he has yet to say anything to me or even respond to my texts. I sent two saying things like “I hope you have a great day, I’m praying for you, I’m here when you feel like talking, I miss you.” And then I sent one saying “please help me understand what’s happening.” And nothing. At this point it feels like I will never heard from him again, which is so sad because I know what we had was special and I know he cared for me. Any thoughts?