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That's a classic sign too, they always are so charming and lovely to the outside world, aren't they? Mines definitely was and no one would have suspected how controlling she was towards me. Things were not bad the whole time, in fact we spent many happy times together, it's so confusing. It was 13 and a half years we were together and I now see she was actually abusive right from the start but it was covert. It's still tough, I have been left with a few thousand pounds worth of debt thanks to my ex. But I have my freedom now, I'm alive and I am not on eggshells wondering when the next yelling match will start again. I still have to find a new place where she can't find me again but I will get there. It's very odd at first but it's also a great feeling to know you can't be controlled anymore. I think you would feel so much better to get him out of your life and really hope you can do it and get your life back and be happy again.He seems like the nicest guy in the world