Justmehere
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It strikes me that it’s not just the boundaries, but the changes in boundaries and what support you can and can’t expect from her... and maybe feeling a bit abandoned in this rough season? Lawsuits are adversarial and kind of can leave anyone feeling a bit, eh, raw, and like people are not really for them or believing in them and etc.
Maybe there could be a way to work on rebuilding a sense of an alliance in the work with her? That even though she can’t do crisis calls, rebuilding that sense that she’s on your side, maybe that would help?
Safety planning would be good - but not just for keeping you alive, but also for how to cope with some of the intense and really hard things you are dealing with right now. My own therapist doesn’t really do crisis help either. Hospitals and crisis lines kinda just don’t work for me personally, except to keep me alive. Part of my handling my therapist’s limited avalibility when in tough spots come up had been finding supports and connections I can engage before I’m in a crisis. It’s something I’m constantly working on actually and need to grow in myself.... When it’s more built up, my therapist’s inability to help in a crisis doesn’t feel so abandoning or jarring.
That being said, it’s really hard to engage that work when also dealing with serious health matters. I have been in a tough spot medically and found a support group just for the medical issues that was a good landing spot between sessions.
I get the sense that maybe you want to feel like someone’s on your side, and it’s missing in the relationship with her at the moment? Or I could be totally missing the mark too, and if so, please disregard.
Maybe there could be a way to work on rebuilding a sense of an alliance in the work with her? That even though she can’t do crisis calls, rebuilding that sense that she’s on your side, maybe that would help?
Safety planning would be good - but not just for keeping you alive, but also for how to cope with some of the intense and really hard things you are dealing with right now. My own therapist doesn’t really do crisis help either. Hospitals and crisis lines kinda just don’t work for me personally, except to keep me alive. Part of my handling my therapist’s limited avalibility when in tough spots come up had been finding supports and connections I can engage before I’m in a crisis. It’s something I’m constantly working on actually and need to grow in myself.... When it’s more built up, my therapist’s inability to help in a crisis doesn’t feel so abandoning or jarring.
That being said, it’s really hard to engage that work when also dealing with serious health matters. I have been in a tough spot medically and found a support group just for the medical issues that was a good landing spot between sessions.
I get the sense that maybe you want to feel like someone’s on your side, and it’s missing in the relationship with her at the moment? Or I could be totally missing the mark too, and if so, please disregard.