LuckiLee
MyPTSD Pro
Hi @BoyfriendqwithPTSD. I know you're hurting through all of this. PTSD is a horrible disorder. Your guy is doing the right thing. Addressing his trauma. He's very brave to do it.
I just want you to realize you won't have the relationship you once had prior to PTSD. As a matter of fact this might be as good as it gets. I know seven years is a long time and I'm sure you had plans for the future together but living with PTSD in a relationship is extremely difficult most days. And freakin h*ll all the other days.
As for the hurtful things he says. I think he feels a relationship is too much for him right now so he's pushing you away. Just my opinion. I don't know either of you but it's pretty common for someone to push the people closest to them away. Relationships are alot of stress and can be just too much for someone. Especially someone starting trauma therapy.
Give him some time and space to sort himself out. Leave him be for a bit. If he reaches out to you. You have to decide if you want to continue the push / pull dynamic that you're stuck in.
Good luck and take care of yourself!
I just want you to realize you won't have the relationship you once had prior to PTSD. As a matter of fact this might be as good as it gets. I know seven years is a long time and I'm sure you had plans for the future together but living with PTSD in a relationship is extremely difficult most days. And freakin h*ll all the other days.
As for the hurtful things he says. I think he feels a relationship is too much for him right now so he's pushing you away. Just my opinion. I don't know either of you but it's pretty common for someone to push the people closest to them away. Relationships are alot of stress and can be just too much for someone. Especially someone starting trauma therapy.
Give him some time and space to sort himself out. Leave him be for a bit. If he reaches out to you. You have to decide if you want to continue the push / pull dynamic that you're stuck in.
Good luck and take care of yourself!