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Poll When Did Your Parents Stop Attending Your Doctors Appointments?

When did your parents stop attending your doctors appointments?

  • 0-5

    Votes: 2 4.4%
  • 6-10

    Votes: 3 6.7%
  • 11-15

    Votes: 17 37.8%
  • 16-20

    Votes: 23 51.1%

  • Total voters
    45
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My mom went with me consistently until I was 15. From there on out she always was willing to sit in the waiting room, but for the most part I wanted her with me because she was paying, I would have had to tell her most of what it was about anyways (Do I have an infection? Do I need antibiotics? Physical Therapy? More tests?). I think the only times she wasn't in the room was when I had to get an X-Ray, or an Ultrasound, because all the places I've been to felt it was unnecessary to have so many people around. But I always brought and still bring someone to all my doctor's appointments because it's easier to have someone else keeping tabs on the remembering bit.
 
17-18. The only reason being that I had my own car. At 18, I switched primary doctors so that my mom wouldn't know or go with me.
She was very neglectful of my issues, especially health-related. I had undiagnosed and untreated asthma my whole life, and started having PCOS symptoms when I was around 14. I fought to even go to therapy most of the time.

I personally believe that around 16 is the healthy age to start letting your child see the doctor on their own. Many doctors believe this too because they want teens to tell them everything, even the stuff they don't want to tell their parents.

If you are the opposite gender of your parent, it can be even more uncomfortable and unproductive for them to go to your doctor appointments with you. It can be used as a method of control and manapulation.
 
My dad never came with me. My mom did until the last one when I was sixteen for a gyn exam. She forced my dad to quit beating me shortly afterward so he would not mess up my female parts or so my dad told me. I went to the free clinic after that on my own and have been going on my own ever since.
 
I'm 23 and my mom still goes with me. I think in the future I will probably go with someone too, I just freak out too much about medical stuff to go alone.
 
I would say that is normal. My dad would still come with me to doctors appointments if he could. I had to tell him to stop coming in with me around 17-19. He would always talk over me to the doctor and it got annoying, lol.
 
I went with my kids all the time. They were boys and I am their mother. The thing is, I asked them if they wanted me to come into the office. Always. Out of respect. They were never pressured.

I am glad I did go as well, as one of my sons had a hernia that he hadn't told his father or I about when he was about 16. My being there allowed my son to leave it to the doctor to tell his parent as I think he was embarrassed about it.
 
Doctors cost money, and my family avoided spending any money when it came to me. It was two-fold though, they couldn't risk being revealed as abusers, and they didn't want to spend money on the co-pay. The last time my parents took me to a doctor was right before kindergarten, and I'm sure it was so that they could get immunization forms to enroll me in school, then there were no doctor visits at all anymore. I got to go to the doctor when I was living abroad for a dislocated elbow and fractured wrist when I was 11, but my parents were not even present, and my caregivers had no choice but to take me since my elbow was dangling backwards inside my arm skin, I wouldn't have been able to perform my chores anyways. Medical attention is avoided when you're being beaten on a regular basis, otherwise how would they explain your condition?

They were controlling in many other ways, but I can say with confidence that it was control for their benefit, not for mine.
 
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