technigirl
Learning
Thanks so much for all the great responses to my previous post. They really got me thinking about my friend, what I can/cannot do for him and for myself, how much I am willing to put up with (or not), etc. I've been doing a lot of thinking about it and it's now been about 3 weeks since he shut me out of his life so suddenly and without explanation. I figure at this point after so long, he's probably not going to come back. I still can't think of anything that happened that should have triggered such an extreme reaction, and it doesn't appear he's going to tell me. So with that there really is nothing I can do.
He is not as terrible as I made him out to be, he definitely has good qualities and this is why I was his friend for so long. I think my frustration was speaking loudly in that post.
That said, I've realized I just need to move on. I did send him the short email a couple of days ago, just basically saying "thinking about you, hope you are well, I'm around if you ever want to talk." That's it. As expected, I got no response. I've now officially done all I can and finally realized that nothing I do or say is going to change this. I feel it's definitely his loss, as I am a good and caring friend (maybe too much, ha). He wanted me to leave him alone, and I am. It does hurt as I think about how close we were and how often we used to talk and the info we shared with each other. Not to mention the vacation, just a few weeks ago, when I stayed with him for a week and had a good time; and then immediately after that, he shuts me out. It's probably one of the strangest and most surreal experiences I've ever had with anyone.
Those are just my thoughts at the moment, I welcome anyone else's thoughts or experiences that you care to share, even if just to commiserate.
He is not as terrible as I made him out to be, he definitely has good qualities and this is why I was his friend for so long. I think my frustration was speaking loudly in that post.
That said, I've realized I just need to move on. I did send him the short email a couple of days ago, just basically saying "thinking about you, hope you are well, I'm around if you ever want to talk." That's it. As expected, I got no response. I've now officially done all I can and finally realized that nothing I do or say is going to change this. I feel it's definitely his loss, as I am a good and caring friend (maybe too much, ha). He wanted me to leave him alone, and I am. It does hurt as I think about how close we were and how often we used to talk and the info we shared with each other. Not to mention the vacation, just a few weeks ago, when I stayed with him for a week and had a good time; and then immediately after that, he shuts me out. It's probably one of the strangest and most surreal experiences I've ever had with anyone.
Those are just my thoughts at the moment, I welcome anyone else's thoughts or experiences that you care to share, even if just to commiserate.