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General Feel Suclueded From Everyone

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Doglover24

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Since my husbands accident and having ptsd, I feel as if he has become sucluded from friends and family. He doesn't feel like being around anyone, ever. If my family comes to visit he hides in our room, I have mention to them he is going through a tough time. He now's thinks since I told them that, they look down on him and treat him differently. He really sucluded himself now. Tried telling him No one thinks less of him, but I am. The terrible wife for even saying anything. Guessing this is normal and will just take time to get through but it is hard when he doesn't want to do anything with anybody..
 
I think that it is important for you to be able to confide in those who can support you. Speaking as a sufferer, I don't like it when people discuss my condition behind my back. I think that in the future you should respect his wishes because it is his choice as to whether or not anyone knows.... I hope you can see the fine line, that is, letting him tell whomever he chooses, but also allowing yourself to confide in those who will support you.
 
It is a fine line... you should respect your husband's privacy, but if his symptoms are noticeable to immediate family there is probably going to have to be some kind of explanation. Especially if his family is NOT related to his trauma.

There is no way you're going to be able to do the "right" thing here. There is no right thing. If you tell he is going to be upset that you violated his privacy. If you don't tell, immediate family notices symptoms and doesn't know what is going on... they ask questions or get concerned, and it just makes for a load of drama when you try to hide things. Or you could tell nobody, and end up locked up in your house alone with him locked in the bedroom.

Personally, I had to tell my parents and children that my Vet has PTSD. He is with my children pretty much daily, and my parents are around helping with the kids a lot, so they see symptoms up close and personally. I didn't go into gory detail or violate his trust by telling trauma stories... but I had to explain what PTSD is and what its symptoms are, etc. If people are in constant close proximity with a sufferer who is symptomatic, there is eventually going to have to be an explanation. Granted, he never told me NOT to tell them... but he was pretty uncomfortable with the idea of anybody knowing until I told him that people noticed symptoms and wanted to know what was going on. I told him that I wasn't going to lie... I could tell them, or I could send people to him personally. In the end he decided that them understanding about PTSD would be a good thing since it is a "family issue."

Now do I tell just anybody he has PTSD? Hell no. I have a few girlfriends I confide in for support, but they don't know him or anybody he knows, and I have this forum that I talk on... other than that, I am not telling people his business.
 
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