Wastinglight
MyPTSD Pro
Well, I don't know what to say. It feels to me like our relationship has been gradually getting worse, since we started living together about 7 months ago. Or is it? I'm feeling so stressed I don't trust my feelings right now.
First he was just emotionally distant. Now he is increasingly irritable, critical, negative, nit-picking, and sometimes just plain mean. I know this isn't him, but I don't know what to do about it.
I've been trying to discuss it with him, but it's like he's made of teflon - everything I say (and I do my utmost to bring issues up in a respectful way) just gets thrown back at me. I feel like he thinks all the blame for what's happening lies with me.
He doesn't yell or get drunk or call me names or anything like that, but he almost never says anything nice or loving to me either. Any positive that I find in a situation, or if I tell him about something good that's happened to me, he will always find the negative, or else just cut me down, or minimise my successes.
Right now, I feel like I'm trapped under a huge boulder, and the weight of it is slowly crushing the life out of me.
I know that there is a lot of stress in our lives at the moment - even though when I ask him if he's stressed about X, he says plays it down (not sure if I believe it though, because his behaviour says otherwise), so maybe that's all it is.
I just wish we could just get a break in the pressure. After 7 months of hard slog, I'm starting to question whether I can get through this without having a complete meltdown.
First he was just emotionally distant. Now he is increasingly irritable, critical, negative, nit-picking, and sometimes just plain mean. I know this isn't him, but I don't know what to do about it.
I've been trying to discuss it with him, but it's like he's made of teflon - everything I say (and I do my utmost to bring issues up in a respectful way) just gets thrown back at me. I feel like he thinks all the blame for what's happening lies with me.
He doesn't yell or get drunk or call me names or anything like that, but he almost never says anything nice or loving to me either. Any positive that I find in a situation, or if I tell him about something good that's happened to me, he will always find the negative, or else just cut me down, or minimise my successes.
Right now, I feel like I'm trapped under a huge boulder, and the weight of it is slowly crushing the life out of me.
I know that there is a lot of stress in our lives at the moment - even though when I ask him if he's stressed about X, he says plays it down (not sure if I believe it though, because his behaviour says otherwise), so maybe that's all it is.
I just wish we could just get a break in the pressure. After 7 months of hard slog, I'm starting to question whether I can get through this without having a complete meltdown.