(Possibly triggering for childhood sexual abuse)
I am venting right now.
I am effing FURIOUS that my spouses
's parents got his abuser therapy but figured that my spouse "seemed fine" after the assault and never bothered to get therapy for him.
I am furious that they thought it was a great idea to have his abuser as a surprise dinner guest when he went back to visit-- wouldnt it be great to catch up?
I am furious that he is expected to forgive because "everyone makes mistakes". Yeah. Everyone does, me included. My mistakes run along the lines of "oops i forgot to buy mayo at the store" rather than repeatedly sexually abusing a small child though. I dont think im alone in this, and i dont think im alone in believing those mistakes are NOT on the same level.
Im furious that im "the wrong woman for him" and spouse "could do better" for bluntly pointing out that i am not going to be kind, considerate or polite if in the same room as his abuser, and that it would be best for everyone involved if no one decides to spring that on me.
Im furious that my spouse's family has cut ties with him because of me stating that.
And... to be perfectly honest with you folks.... im furious that no one has put me in that position, because i would finally be able to look into the face of all my problems and spit in it, rather than having to just clean up that emotional devastation he created.
I am venting right now.
I am effing FURIOUS that my spouses
's parents got his abuser therapy but figured that my spouse "seemed fine" after the assault and never bothered to get therapy for him.
I am furious that they thought it was a great idea to have his abuser as a surprise dinner guest when he went back to visit-- wouldnt it be great to catch up?
I am furious that he is expected to forgive because "everyone makes mistakes". Yeah. Everyone does, me included. My mistakes run along the lines of "oops i forgot to buy mayo at the store" rather than repeatedly sexually abusing a small child though. I dont think im alone in this, and i dont think im alone in believing those mistakes are NOT on the same level.
Im furious that im "the wrong woman for him" and spouse "could do better" for bluntly pointing out that i am not going to be kind, considerate or polite if in the same room as his abuser, and that it would be best for everyone involved if no one decides to spring that on me.
Im furious that my spouse's family has cut ties with him because of me stating that.
And... to be perfectly honest with you folks.... im furious that no one has put me in that position, because i would finally be able to look into the face of all my problems and spit in it, rather than having to just clean up that emotional devastation he created.