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really confused by these reactions i said smethng inncent and it seems like you guys are sayng i deserved what i got. He showed me a post of his mocking some young stranger fr hs sexual actvtes. i tried to laugh it off by sayng, "geez, you act like you've regressed." He responds by fleeing from the car, sending me death threats, contactng my boss and askng for him to fire me, releasing a sex tape .... and somehow it turns out that i have just "asked for this" by making a harmless joke?
 
Ok, this sounds like nuances of what is which issue won't work right now because you're in a crisis mode.

So a different question: What do you need most right now, what do you need to gain time and think things through calmly? How's your support network at the place, can you discuss your safety situation with someone?
 
I'd say he reacted very strongly and irrationally to criticism with a counterattack that is WAY stronger.

Deserving is a value judgment, value judgments are fuzzy and illogical and really not helpful.

I just thought...would I want someone with that short of a fuse in charge of caring for a toddler? Me personally? No.

I generally put myself in the poster's shoes, or try to, when I answer. So that's where I come from.
 
"the people he is living with seem to be influencing hm in a bad way and making him sleazy and immature). I lightheartedly said "wow, you've regressed like five years just living with these people" and told him I thought it was sad that he was wasting his time talkng about other people's sex lives, and that it was juvenile and unlike him. I wasn't mean, didn't say anything offensive or raise my voice. Said this all in a teasing, motherly manner."

First sentence of the quote observational and judging. The second thing... judging and observational. "I wasn't mean... wasn't offensive or raised my voice"... defensive. I said this in a teasing motherly manner... you had two counts of judging and weren't teasing and you ain't his mother.
 
@Casey_03 I'm not saying you deserve any of that. No way no how.
I'm sorry you feel we're attacking you. I just thought a perspective of what he felt might've helped. The new information about why you said what you said changes things. But if you're not going out anymore what he finds funny and if he's a dick it's not your problem anymore.

What he's done is NOT acceptable. In anyway shape or form.
 
and everything you quoted was how i looked at it and descrbed t after, not what i actually said. my exact words were, "wow, you're acting like you've regressed five years, what's gotten into you?" I hardly see how that justifies threats of violence, @The Albatross
 
Hey I got big shoulders and an opinion... if you want it would frankly be better for you to come after me than the father of your child.
 
@The Albatross How have I become the agressor? You're portraying me as if I'm being aggressive or something ... "come after me" ... what?! what the hell did i say to make you think i was going after anybody? i tried to go to the doctor to get an ultrasound, that's it. was told 10 seconds in that the father wanted to "punch me in the fcae." and yu fr sme reasn are siding wth hm. ...
 
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