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General How Do You Give And Show Support

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How do you give and show support? Everyone is different and some of the things that happen are situational that triggers responses and some responses are the result of a build-up of things. So what has worked for you to give/show support, what has not. I ask this so I can get a different prospective. So if you are either the supporter or suffering (hate that term) I would appreciate the insight you can give.

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Besides the obvious "having his back" and learning about PTSD, I seriously just chill. the. f*ck. out.

Easier said than done, right?

But in all reality, the calmer and more relaxed I am, the more he seems to benefit from it too. We don't have a lot of major relationship dramatics. I don't sweat the small stuff anymore. I pick my battles and have learned to give him room to breathe when he needs it. I can recognize when his PTSD is bad now, and I know the drill.

The benefit for me in all this is that when I lay the hammer down, he knows I damn well mean it. I don't do it for little things, only things that are worth it to me.

Our relationship has the usual PTSD problems too... Don't get me wrong. I still get hurt and angry. Being calmer in general helps the situation a lot though.
 
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