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    Newly Diagnosed C-ptsd

    Because it has the merit of being based on accurate information, unlike knee-jerk diagnoses of the past. CPTSD is often called "the great imitator" since it mimicks the symptoms of many other conditions; I was also diagnosed with everything short of manic-depression and schizophrenia, and was on...
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    Misdiagnosed

    " C-PTSD is a more recent finding, and so of course much of the medical/psych profession is oblivious to it. http://pete-walker.com/ has some nice articles which I found informative, and I'm VERY skeptical about just about everything-- which is a healthy defense on my part, since my entire...
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    Does Anyone " Get It "? I Don't Know Who I Can Trust.

    I think this forum is even more important than therapists, since it's impossibe to understand it otherwise. Otherwise, everyone understands the symptoms, since everyone's felt, axious, depressed and hopeless etc. to some degree; but only a small fraction of people have been really traumatized...
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    Does Anyone " Get It "? I Don't Know Who I Can Trust.

    To begin with, you need a therapist who's worked with PTSD before, and is qualified to do so, otherwise it's a mess. And if someone in your family isn't supportive and understanding, then they're "fair-weather" family, like I've got-- they can make things even worse, since they make you feel bad...
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    Getting In Touch With Anger

    I wouldn't say "come back to it later," but rather just make a note of it and go freely in another direction. This was Freud's true fheory of Free Association, similar to how, as a physician, he'd feel for areas of pain;, and so he'd simply note them rather than keep pushing on them to "fix"...
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    Getting In Touch With Anger

    You really nailed it for me; at the Nuremberg trials, the Jewish prosecutor (I can't remember his name) defined evil as "the absence of compassion," which allowed people to rationalize anything. However I will go one better, and say that it's the arrogance of condescension, whereby compassion is...
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    Getting In Touch With Anger

    I don't now about anyone else here, but I'm very sensitive due to trauma, but still I'm afraid to show anger for fear of people not liking me, for appearing "weak" and seeing me not in complete control, or thinking me immature, or retalliating against me and getting aggressive, or-- my...
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    Coming To Grips With My Cptsd Diagnosis

    Trauma can't be stored in your body, it's the memory of being paralyzed by fear, while at the same time desperate to do something about it; it's stored in the brain-- specifically, the left para-hippocampal region, which is where habits are processed by matching current sensory-experience with...
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    Coming To Grips With My Cptsd Diagnosis

    I had the same problem, and I'm currently changing therapists; my life-history has been therapists who would just rationalize everything, no matter how I felt, and label me by-the-book- and I began to understand that psychology was often used as a tool to deny problems and blame the victim, like...
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    CPTSD & People Pleasing Behaviours

    Bulliies are ruthless social-predators, and it's a no-win situation for victims who aren't wise to them, since they will use any trick to get you; and claim that you started it etc. Even cyber-bullies do this, and I've had them give me death-threats and then say I started it. And then of course...
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    CPTSD & People Pleasing Behaviours

    It has nothing to do with intelligence, it's psychological compulsion to repeat the trauma as a means of controlling it, as opposed to fearing it happening again by itself; i.e. the fear of the trauma becomes greater than the incident itself, so you want to "get it over with" by making it...
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    CPTSD & People Pleasing Behaviours

    The key is, choose your battles wisely, i.e. don't face a bully you can't handle, or don't want to; you need experience in working up to it in a safe environment, just like any other training for a hostile situation-- like we don't just give soldiers a gun and send them into battle, it takes at...
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    Re-Victimization (Of Self) - Short And Long Term Patterns

    The Problem is being sure to sparate "toxic thinking"-- i.e. which causes trauma-- simply how you actually feel as a result of it; and it's vital to identify what you really feel-- esp. when it comes to trauma. We live in a "band-aid," blame-the-victim society that just tells us to lie to...
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    Re-Victimization (Of Self) - Short And Long Term Patterns

    I'm not sure about "self-victimization," but for me I can't even go outdoors alone, without immediately lapsing into flashbacks of school-bullying abuse, or other abuse that continued afterward, and I feel like that the shame and humiliation will always be there-- in the future as well as the...
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    CPTSD & People Pleasing Behaviours

    ' I also want to say that in addition to avoiding angry people, it's also important to avoid people who seek to invalidate your feelings and condition; you don't have to answer to them, or convince them. You could give them all the proof in the world, and they can still deny and invalidate...
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    CPTSD & People Pleasing Behaviours

    I think the first thing is, AVOID them, and reserve the right to do so. Keep your senses open for it, an angry person is easy to spot from a distance. Then, just avoid that person; even if they try to talk to you, they have no legal or other right to stop you. The best (only) way to win with an...
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    CPTSD & People Pleasing Behaviours

    It's important to put yourself and your own needs first, and remember that you don't have to talk to anyone you don't want to-- even police! If someone talks to you and you don't want to listen, you have every right to keep going (unless it's the police, but you don't have to talk to them...
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    Extreme need for isolation and fear of people

    I have something like the opposite problem, i.e. I had Complex PTSD from infancy, and then was persecuted for being "anti-social" etc. even when I was bullied and tortured psychologically, and was just persecuted more and more for not wanting to be around people who were hurtful to me...
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    Abuse From Family

    "TomG" from the Midwest USA; I'm over 40, but never lived on my own. I've had PTSD from infancy due to abuse and neglect by my family; and it only compounded from there, due to blame and labelling of my symptoms, using anything against me-- not just by my family, but by society. I also had...
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    The Worst Thing About Being Abused? The Continual Blame

    The worst part is that this is the MESSAGE you get from society in general, that this is their overall attitude and belief: i.e. that they're better than you because you're suffering, and they're not-- it really IS "second wounding," by adding insult to injury. The message is always how...
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