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    Relationship Ptsd Or Just A Jerk?

    Well, turns out it has nothing to do with PTSD. He texted me this afternoon and said this was a wake up call (I'm assuming his ex-wife being in the hospital) and he still has feelings for his ex-wife. He said it isn't a good time for him and it wouldn't be fair to me. He needs time to heal...
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    Relationship Ptsd Or Just A Jerk?

    I met a guy about a month ago. He would initiate texts with me 3-4 times a day and call 1-3 times a day every day. We had a ton in common, had the same warped sense of humor, and just really clicked. I haven't clicked with anyone like this in my entire life. He is recently divorced and moved...
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    Relationship Dating Someone With Ptsd

    Oh Marcey, I'm so sorry. I could have written your post two months ago. I heard the exact same thing as in your quote. It was almost word for word. Then, within days, he did exactly what he said he wouldn't do and abandoned me. He had told me to call or text anytimg and that we'd still talk and...
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    Relationship Why Me? What Are The Odds Of This?

    It's funny you say that. I had been wondering for months why God, fate, the universe, whatever you believe in would bring someone into my life who so quickly became so important to me only to let me get attached and then rip him away through a means I had no control over. It just seemed like a...
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    Relationship Why Me? What Are The Odds Of This?

    As many of you know, I dated a guy with combat PTSD for a few months. Things were great and then, out of nowhere, he decided he couldn't handle the stress of the expectations of a relationship and just needed a friend. He didn't want to cut me out of his life. He wanted to talk to me and hang...
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    Relationship Possiblities & Answers

    He made tons of "future plans" with me, but in the end, it didn't matter. He was going to teach me to shoot a gun (he was a sniper in the Army), he was going to take me to a football game of the college he is a huge fan of, etc. These were all things we were going to do down the road. Then...
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    Relationship Help..... I Dont Know What To Do

    Wow! I really thought I was alone in feeling this! His birthday is today. I sent a card. Yeah, I probably shouldn't have. I know that, but I did. I'm embarrassed to admit it. Anyway, I could have sent him a text, but I was afraid I'd find out he had blocked me or it would serve as a...
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    Relationship What Would You Like To Hear From Your Sufferer?

    I would just love to hear, "I'm sorry. I never meant to hurt you." It would take a huge weight off my shoulders because I look at all the things he did and the only conclusion I can come to is that he must absolutely hate me for some reason, but I didn't do anything and we didn't fight. I'm...
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    Relationship Help..... I Dont Know What To Do

    My advice is to really research what you're getting into and take things slow. I hate to say it, but it seems like the PTSD relationship success stories are few and far between. My relationship started like yours. Things were great. He texted me all day and we'd talk 1-2 hours just about...
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    Relationship When To Throw In The Towel?

    Granted, my experience with someone with PTSD is pretty limited (one, to be exact), but this is exactly what I saw. I try so hard to make sense of the things he's done and said, but how can you make sense of a disease that makes people do and say things that make no sense? We went from...
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    Relationship When To Throw In The Towel?

    This sounds so familiar. I watched my sufferer spiral down and was pulling away. He finally told me he couldn't be in a relationship, but that he still wanted to hang out with me and talk and that I could call or text him anytime. I called him a few days later and he was in a pretty foul mood...
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    Relationship What Should I Do

    I guess, I just wanted to add, even if they do open up, that doesn't mean everything will be okay. My sufferer told me everything. I know what happened in Iraq. I know what his nightmares are in great detail. I know what his triggers are and why those specific things are triggers. He talked...
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    Relationship Dating Someone With Ptsd

    I started dating a guy early in the summer who was very much like what you have described. He told me everything the went through in Iraq in great detail and swore he had told me more than his dad (who he is very close to) and his therapist. There was a huge level of trust between us. He sent...
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    General Anybody Ever Feel Like This.

    Haha! I have read both that book and Why Men Marry Bitches!
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    General Anybody Ever Feel Like This.

    I am nowhere near as deep into a relationship as you are, but this post helped me see that some of the feelings I've had aren't just in my head. I've been sitting here wondering how a month ago he was texting me all day. He'd send pictures of what he was eating, goofy stories, complaining...
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    General I Don't Know How To Be His Friend.

    Oh, believe me, I'm very familiar with the cup. That is the one thing that clicked when he told me the stress of expectations of a relationship were too much for him. He knows I'm his friend, he knows I care about him, and he knows I'm always here for him. I have no doubt about that. He has...
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    General I Don't Know How To Be His Friend.

    Thanks for the response. It is great to hear that I'm on the right track. I desperately want to be his friend. I love this guy, but it is a fine line between being there for him and causing him stress.
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    General I Don't Know How To Be His Friend.

    I was dating a guy with combat PTSD up until last week. He goes to therapy (individual and recently group) and takes medication and thought he was ready for a relationship. Last week, he told me he wasn't ready and that he needs to do something drastic and was looking into inpatient treatment...
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    General Combat/military Ptsd And Treatment

    The guy I was dating is looking into the inpatient treatment program at the VA Hospital. His program would be 90 days and, I'm assuming, include the PTSD and TBI treatment. I would love to know exactly what this program entails. I'm sure there will be group and individual therapy, but what...
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    Relationship Progress

    I'm glad things are going well. I read so many posts were it seems there is no hope so this is nice for me. The guy I was dating knows he has PTSD, goes to therapy (individual and recently group), but knows it isn't enough. He is taking steps to get more help. I know this makes my story...
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    Relationship I Know It's Right, But I Still Feel Loss.

    I would be dating because I have to live my life. I want a relationship and love and, if he can't give it to me, I have to find someone who can. I will always love him and I'll always be there for him. He is the one I want, but if he can't be with me, I have to move on.
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    Relationship I Know It's Right, But I Still Feel Loss.

    Thanks Celia. I just wish I knew what to do. I can't put my life on hold romantically if he is never going to be ready for a relationship. At the same time, I feel wrong dating other people. If I knew for sure he was going to do the inpatient program, I would hold on, not date, and see what...
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    Relationship I Know It's Right, But I Still Feel Loss.

    About three months ago, I met a guy with PTSD. He is a war veteran. He was upfront about the illness, he goes to individual therapy and recently started group therapy, and has told me a ton about what happened when he was at war. He says he has told me more than his family or his therapist...
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