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  1. NoWhereKnowWhere

    Other Locked In A Box -v- Voluntary Bad Living Situations

    I’m finding this very interesting. For my own part I came out of quite a bad depressive episode and realised I was “trapped”. As in I had burned through my savings and was totally reliant on my partner. Now I love my partner and he’s never shown any signs of abusive behaviour, but I need to know...
  2. NoWhereKnowWhere

    Other Locked In A Box -v- Voluntary Bad Living Situations

    Like omg this situation sucks I should do something about it. *Continues to not do anything about it*? Or like learned helplessness? Or like executive dysfunction as it’s triggering or as in ADHD paralysis? Or do you mean like feeling trapped is triggering even though you could “do something”...
  3. NoWhereKnowWhere

    Stigma and recognition of trauma and resulting challenges

    Hey 👋🏻 dyslexic here… 🧐Although I think it might’ve been the sleep deprivation. And the other time was definitely the “substances” I’m sorry I couldn’t resist an internet spoof “actually” moment. I have nothing further or anything productive to add to this thread. Just couldn’t help myself.
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    I broke down over the weekend

    I’m doing really well right now and I’ve had years of therapy but Yeah same. There are things I’ve managed to deal with triggers and such but there are some things that just sting a bit less and this is definitely one of them. It’s hard when our close circle can’t understand that we can’t just...
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    Sleeping half the day after opening up

    Yes absolutely. It took way longer than was necessary for me to realise I can’t plan anything for the same day as therapy. Therapy is hard work. I would be so foggy after therapy I actually really appreciated lockdown zoom/phone consultations it makes getting home a lot easier haha. But yes the...
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    Do i have ptsd ?

    I’ve had 4 different diagnosis generalised anxiety disorder, PTSD, BPD, and now cPTSD. It’s not all all unheard of here for people to have had similar experiences. Diagnosis isn’t an exact science and some psychiatrist’s have different views, experience, expertise, and bias they are only human...
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    Do i have ptsd ?

    Honestly we don’t know. It’s possible to experience trauma and not have ptsd. You need to be diagnosed by a trained mental health professional. We’re just people with ptsd and an internet connection.
  8. NoWhereKnowWhere

    Friends with Bill W

    Ooft same! I was literally celibate for two years because I kept trauma recreating while drunk. I’d give up anything but the crux of the issue, alcohol. Getting blackout is terrifying “anything could happen” people would say and unfortunately anything did happen it’s an unfortunate thing that a...
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    Friends with Bill W

    Oh rub it in why don’t you 😂😂😂 Good for you though @Movingforward10 its difficult to let go of bad coping strategies especially ones that work as well as alcohol. 💪🏻
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    Friends with Bill W

    Thank you for your honesty! Damn I knew I made this thread for a reason. Because I have something I wouldn’t share in a meeting too but here goes I say in meetings i started drinking when I was 14 and that’s when I made a choice to drink. But I was groomed as a child and sex trafficked. Well I...
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    Friends with Bill W

    90 days well done! 🥳 @Weemie Haha the f*cked up 12 step that’s hilarious and pretty accurate! I’m 100 days today. And yup still on the vape. One thing at a time though. And what the heck would I do in the breaks at meetings? Haha everyone piles out there’s only a few non smokers.
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    Friends with Bill W

    I’m not sure if this is allowed? But I guess we’re all anonymous here and I’d add this thread doesn’t speak for AA or any other 12 step program. Let’s keep this non allied with sect denominations, politic or organisation. Also let’s not engage in controversy, neither endorse nor appose any...
  13. NoWhereKnowWhere

    One reason you keep going?

    Less than 3 months ago I was as close as I’ve ever been. I’m doing really well rn. I squirrel these moments up and take them out to look at them when I’m in the depths of despair. Depressed brain is a liar and will make you think you’ve been this depressed your whole life. I try to remember that...
  14. NoWhereKnowWhere

    CBT is kind of gaslighty

    I was stable when I started trauma focused CBT. I wasn’t afterwards. I don’t know if it was the fawn response in me that made me willing to push myself further than I should’ve. It’s quite often the first thing offered on the NHS. I had no ideas what therapy was I had been seeing a psychiatrist...
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    Ummmm… I think I made a wrong choice with a therapist I need help and advice.

    I personally wouldn’t do EMDR with someone who doesn’t have many years of experience and a high level of competency in that area. That said even if I could afford that level of therapist I still wouldn’t do EMDR I’ve seen a lot of people it’s really helped and a minority it’s been awful for. I...
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    Sufferer My story : Childhood Trauma

    Hi welcome to the forum. Are you in therapy? I’ve found some charity organisations to be helpful in the UK the waiting lists are awful but you never go down the waiting list if you never get put on them. Most universities have counsellors too.
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    Friend put us both in danger of assault. Should I be mad?

    I don’t know about advice you know what they say about advice being like assholes. But what I personally would do in this situation is reply to her text saying I don’t want to leave you in read, I’m quite triggered by what happened I wish I could be there to support you but I can’t right now...
  18. NoWhereKnowWhere

    Are things getting better w/ acceptance of abuse victims?

    Yes just very slowly. We’re in the backlash period post me too and times up. So I’m predicting things get much hairier in the next few years. They should level out again rinse repeat.
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    Advice on cutting ties with abusive family?

    I took about a year to think about it before I pulled the trigger so to speak. It is a spectrum imo depending on the situation it can be possible to distance yourself and gain independence. While keeping them at arms length. My family know very little about my life because they have proven they...
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    Post covid hypervigilance

    YES! Me too! I did have a bit of a breakdown just before the world shut down. Not having the pressure to work and do stuff was honestly amazing. I only feel like I’m getting back to myself now. So I’m trying the usual methods for this point of recovery which entails socialising and having some...
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    Post covid hypervigilance

    There were a lot of things I thought I finally had a handle on before the pandemic. Hypervigilance in crowds being one of them. When I had to be vigilant because dick holes couldn’t wear their masks properly or be far too close! pandemic or no why are you breathing down my neck? Trying to get...
  22. NoWhereKnowWhere

    Venting about misguided son, need support

    Family therapy for you (and his father if he’s willing and any siblings he has) You deserve support and advice and a place to talk all this out so you can try to support him. You can’t pour from an empty cup. I was a wild child drinking and taking drug, skipping school getting into trouble. My...
  23. NoWhereKnowWhere

    I Feel Like The Only One - Triggered By Movie/TV Content

    I don’t watch anything without checking it first Unconsenting Media and does the dog die app. The app is one off cost and it’s brilliant it’s generally kept updated. Failing that IMBd has a parents guide does kinda give spoilers but idk about that. I can count on one hand the amount of times...
  24. NoWhereKnowWhere

    how to get out of bed when it feels impossible?

    I say to my self “you can be depressed anywhere” I can cry in the shower or while brushing my teeth just as well as in bed. I can be depressed outdoors as well as in bed. Being in bed doesn’t help me it just makes me feel guilty. Another approach is giving myself until I specific time. I can...
  25. NoWhereKnowWhere

    Anger - I Don’t Get Angry

    I didn’t think I felt anger for a while. It was the last emotion that clicked for me. I hadn’t realised I had spent most of my life until that point Behind a light shimmer of dissociative symptoms. I knew I had dissociative symptoms the memory loss, key loss, everything loss was a bit of a give...
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