This person doesn't seem to be a healthy person to have in your life. If it were me, I would distance myself. Just my two cents, after being sucked into numerous unhealthy friendships over the course of my life, I now realize how much better it is to not have all the drama. It takes all my...
I'm right there with you. I have just a few friends left and I can't seem to reach out to them. Even if they call me, for some reason I just look at their names on caller ID and I can't bring myself to pick up the phone. I hate it and I don't understand why I'm like this now. I lost the...
Are you able to get a cat? I have two cats that I've had since they were kittens and they sleep with me, cuddle with me while I watch tv, etc. They help me so much with my dark moods and depression. Also, I use a portable fan when I got to sleep at night and it provides the white noise...
I feel that way all the time. Wouldn't it be great if all of us who feel alone and impossible to understand could meet up and support each other? *sigh* There are too many of us stuck feeling this way. :(
I can relate to all of the things on this thread. It both scares me and relieves me that I'm not alone. I think the world we live in is crazy-making--violence everywhere, hate, abuse of every kind imaginable, focus on trying get us to work to death to buy junk we don't need, pressure to be...
I was thoroughly baffled by my mother's insane behavior toward me. While I didn't think she was normal or that I deserved to be treated that way, I did think that everyone hated their parents until I was probably a grown adult and realized not every family was as disordered as mine is. It was...
And yes...I'm the person at work who cheers everyone up, is always in a good mood, etc. People would never guess how I really feel inside. I get home from work and I'm just exhausted from working so hard trying to be who I used to be naturally...only now it's hard work.
I totally agree with how you described depression. It is exactly the same for me. While there are definitely things in my life that are worth being sad about or grieving over, for the most part I think I have a decent life and I'm ok with it. But I also have the brain fog, apathy...
You will LOVE Toxic Parents. Guaranteed! I have bought it for friends before.
I just remembered another book, "Adult Children of Alcoholic Parents" by Janet Woititz. My parents were not alcoholics but my grandfather was and this book totally nailed some of my mother's worst...
You're welcome! It occurred to me while looking at this thread again...this is probably a large part of the reason that my social circle has grown smaller and smaller over the years. I've really lost patience with other people's ignorance. Sad but true. :(
Sadly, you are not alone in this experience. I am 47 and been fighting the effects of a narcissist mother for my whole life, but only fully realized it in the past few years. Some books I would recommend for healing/understanding:
Toxic Parents, by Susan Forward
Hope and Healing from...
I'm sorry, I don't have any advice but you should know that you're not alone. I think in general there are a lot of people who think it's ok to tell other people what they SHOULD want and what they SHOULD be doing according to THEIR world view/life experiences/conditioning, etc. I've seen some...
I completely understand. I feel the same way and mostly just want to be left alone. I think a lot of the problem is it is just so tiring to try to present as "normal" to the rest of the world when things are nowhere near normal. I noticed when I skip something I used to do regularly, like...
I don't like taking meds either but then when I think about the alternative (panic attacks, taking anger out on people I care about it, unable to sleep, etc.), I realize it is probably better that I take them. I hope that someday I will be at a point in my life where I have been able to process...
I vent it all out in my journal. I sometimes worry what my kids will think of me someday when I die and they read through all my journals (from 4th grade to present, and I am now 47 years old). I can only hope it will give a more complete picture of me to my kids. They will know how much they...
Joeylittle--as someone whose ex continues to engage me in court over custody, child support, etc., I have to disagree with you. It is traumatic to chronically have your value as a parent publicly attacked, to have so-called mental health "experts" invalidate you and side with your accuser, to...
Where does the author compare battle on the field to battle in the courtroom? All the author says is that people who suffer courtroom abuse may develop PTSD symptoms SIMILAR TO the symptoms that people in combat may develop. It seems to me that the only reason combat was even mentioned is...