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    Kundalini yoga experience?

    I agree with the above :). You should stick to a practice that is trauma based or very gentle and slow - like hatha, and take the practice itself very slowly as lots of things will come up. This form of yoga is known to be troublesome for some people and even dangerous. I practice meditation and...
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    People who know, but don't *get* it.

    Haha thanks :)! I wonder why we can't edit ourselves? Loved your detour lol!! Interesting! I love his rouge ways lol :P!
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    Emdr

    Fayne Jane - **wraps in biggest tightest hug**!! EMDR can really just pull out some memories from nowhere, but it can also help take the pain of those dragged up memories away. It's hard at first but then the memory will lose it's force and power, EMDR really helped me so much - so keep going...
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    People who know, but don't *get* it.

    Speaking as someone who worked in mental health - you get many, many people coming to you who are dealing with all kinds of pain. You try to stay kind and helpful - but it;s not within your capacity sadly to be able to do that all the time, perfectly. A lot of the time you can only do your best...
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    How I Started Managing Symptoms Through Diet

    Well if anti-depressants change your brain chemicals (and mood as a byproduct), so does good, wholesome food - directly involving serotonin and dopamine. This is a great video on the effectiveness of plant-based diets for anxiety and depression :) Plant-Based Diets for Improved Mood &...
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    Longest Positive Words List

    Badassery Grace Self-compassion Openness Honesty Empathy Freedom Acceptance
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    How Do You Like To Dress?

    I guess for me also, I like putting time and effort into my look - especially dressing up to go out, but it really gets my back up when guys catcall, or harass me, or even flirt with me - "No, I really don't want to be tickled - you're killing me" lol. No makeup and not bothering means I don't...
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    How Do You Like To Dress?

    I like clothes that are like edgy but stylish, that's how I'd describe my style. Like my wardrobe used to be so much black - dark skinny jeans and oversized sweaters are mainly what I wear, but I recently started bringing in more colours. I like cute jackets, leather jackets, cute military style...
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    Sexual Assault Im Not Sure If I Can Call It Sexual Assault ??

    Yeah, but you don't know what was happening in your mind when you did get in the car - maybe you thought he was guiding you to a taxi or something? Or maybe he said something like "I'll take you home". Sometimes people with abuse and trauma histories are more accommodating and less resistant -...
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    Good First Emdr Session - Excited At The Changes

    Hello everyone, There are a lot of threads on here about EMDR and people having a had time and difficult symptoms being dredged up from EMDR (seems to come up a lot when I search for EMDR). So, I wanted to come and share my experiences with EMDR so far, as an example of some of the positive...
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    Sexual Assault Im Not Sure If I Can Call It Sexual Assault ??

    **biggest hugs**. You didn't say no, because you couldn't say no, you also made it clear when you were less intoxicated that you were not interested and he still did it. The blame is fully on him. You had a classic freeze response that happens very often with assault when we are threatened and...
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    Relationship Toxicity, Manipulation, Narcissism... Let's Have A Chat.

    I asked you to consider if it's abuse for your sake. At the end of the day it's your relationship and it's your trauma and it's you that is having the toxic effects from it. It doesn't make any shred of difference if I end up agreeing with you or not. I'm stepping out of the debate and reading...
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    Relationship Toxicity, Manipulation, Narcissism... Let's Have A Chat.

    One of my friends with PTSD is more aggressively 'f*ck you' with it and I get that that is a result of her experience and how her PTSD manifests. But she isn't repeatedly cruel and abusive. That's the difference. Don't get it twisted. If you guys are actually reading my posts - I have...
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    Relationship Toxicity, Manipulation, Narcissism... Let's Have A Chat.

    I get that, thanks for pointing that out. I see what you guys are saying about different sufferers having different cooing mechanisms, but I am pointing out that a lot of what is being discussed is cruel, dehumanising and seemingly abusive here - what I'm saying is that it's important to not let...
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    Relationship Toxicity, Manipulation, Narcissism... Let's Have A Chat.

    Lashing out and raging is not always a choice. Cruelty is a choice!! That's the difference!
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    Relationship Toxicity, Manipulation, Narcissism... Let's Have A Chat.

    If you think isolating is abuse then you don't understand the definition of abuse. I am not isolating to harm or punish or control my partner and to say my partner experiences my temporary isolation, which I also explain and apologise for, is an insult to people that experience real abuse. *to...
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    Relationship Toxicity, Manipulation, Narcissism... Let's Have A Chat.

    Thank you, thank you, thank you. I have my PTSD from abuse and also don't to see anyone suffer in that way and think that it's because they can't control it, that is just so upsetting to me. Let them take the full responsibility for it.
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    Relationship Toxicity, Manipulation, Narcissism... Let's Have A Chat.

    Also, I will leave saying that I standby my original view that I don't believe PTSD is the cause and origin of abusive behaviour. The below article sums up what I am getting at. Does Mental Illness Cause Abuse? – www.loveisrespect.org Moderator edit to remove copy-paste. Please see...
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    Relationship Toxicity, Manipulation, Narcissism... Let's Have A Chat.

    I am leaving the conversation now, because I'm raw from EMDR and I understand that this is a sensitive topic and you are all fighting for and supporting people you love and care about. I'm sorry if this has made you feel in anyway bad, but I fought to say it with the best intentions and I stand...
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    Relationship Toxicity, Manipulation, Narcissism... Let's Have A Chat.

    I'm only saying this because I don't want anyone to suffer abuse because they think it's just an understandable by-product of PTSD. In the case of isolating, it's more that if my partner takes it personally then it hurts him - so I communicate with him and let him know I am having a hard time...
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    Relationship Toxicity, Manipulation, Narcissism... Let's Have A Chat.

    Eh, sorry but no one's stress response is too f*cked up to do that. I've been there too when my PTSD has been unmanaged. Mine was delayed onset so i had no idea what was happening to me when it kicked in - I thought I was going crazy, I was terrified. I had the rage, I had the terror, I had the...
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    Relationship Toxicity, Manipulation, Narcissism... Let's Have A Chat.

    Thanks @shimmerz - you eloquently summed up what I was trying to say!! My boyfriend has seen me waking up with panic attacks, hold me as I shook, stayed with me in the ambulance when I thought I was dying from a panic attack - but never, no matter how bad and painful it was for me, have I ever...
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    Relationship Toxicity, Manipulation, Narcissism... Let's Have A Chat.

    I don't know her and I don't like to make sweeping statements or assumptions - but I feel like if I can help it, so can she. I've been through abuse and I wouldn't put anyone through that and I don't want any of you to feel like this is just a byproduct of PTSD when it isn't... like you said...
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    Relationship Toxicity, Manipulation, Narcissism... Let's Have A Chat.

    I never lash out at my boyfriend because I understand that how I feel has got nothing to do with him - even when it's my CPTSD and it feels very real to me - like he definitely doesn't care about me. Why would I be cruel to someone who is nothing but kind, supportive and caring to me? I think...
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    Relationship Toxicity, Manipulation, Narcissism... Let's Have A Chat.

    I think what I mean when I say that I don't take it out on anyone, is that I'm not being cruel - I could see how easy it can be to have a blow up with rage. But you're not being cruel, aggression could come from fear, or self-protection, but cruelty gets used because that person 'benefits' from it.
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