@Snowflakes I also remember you and your wonderful words to me and all us on here when giving advice. I hope you are well and your journey has hopefully brightened up somewhat since we last connected? I will be leaving this site but wish you all the best and sending you huge hugs back!!
Sorry I think there was some huge miss-understanding in regards to my post. I did not cheat, I am not in a relationship with anyone, this new guy is 'new'. I went to go see him because he told me he was in trouble, I wouldn't leave unless I thought it was serious. It was serious. He was sat with...
Hey All,
I joined this site over a year ago when I started dating a guy who suffered from PTSD. Those of you who were on the journey with me will know if my story but for those who don't, I dated him on and off for around 7 months, during the first two months there was some pretty great times...
Just throwing my two cents in here ... you're very much in/was in honeymoon stage, which is a stage when you meet someone and everything is glorious and wonderful and nothing seems like it would ever go wrong, you live in this dreamworld, all these hormones flying around and it's bloody...
It wouldn't let me address your name @shockedtothecore but thank you and I am very very sorry you had to endure the same pain, a lot worse by the sounds of it. You will come out at the otherside and you will be great for it, chin up :hug:
Thank you everyone so much for your responses, sorry I haven't replied sooner I haven't felt like talking much on this site at the moment!!
@tiredtexan absolutely it definitely gave me the kick up the bum to try and move on and I think maybe I needed it. Thanks for the hugs :hug:
@Esterio...
I wasn’t sure whether I was going to share my story before I leave this site but I’ve decided to. For all you fairly new supporters I hope it might give you a bit of insight into how we might always be looking for answers and explanations but we will never really get them. It’s also important...
@caligirl03
Just want to bring it back to base as to why you split up, you set a boundary that you couldn't be with him until he seeked help if I remember rightly? I think this is more about what you're wanting from him, are you looking to be friends or more? If it develops into anything more...
@monsterade hugs to you, sounds like you're going through a horrible time :hug:
You might not want to accept it but I think you have to accept the situation and move on. You have no control over her and what she does, so you have to accept the fact she has moved on and you need to as well...
When my friend went to therapy it was very much a case of ... it gets worse before it gets better.
Therapy makes them talk and face things that they've been avoiding, it brings up memories and feelings and from what I've heard therapy makes a lot of people re-live the trauma several times...
You're right there are a billion thread here all stating the same thing, it's common for sufferers of PTSD to isolate. If your guy only doesn't contact you for a whole day then count yourself lucky!!!! I know some supporters on here who go weeks, sometimes months without hearing from their SO...
100% with you.
Pulled a sickie yesterday. Cried so many times in the toilet. Spend all day clicking back onto this site to see the little red notification/browse through posts when no-ones looking. Not gone into work because he was in a bad way.
HOWEVER .... I actually do hate my job so I'm...
Been nearly two weeks for me, the longest yet! Actually feeling grand these past few days, went on a 6 mile run today, applying for new jobs, seeing gal pals and having a few cocky t's here and there (cocktails that is) ;)
Depends how badly they're suffering, I struggled the first week this...
@WonderWoman I can imagine it's a pretty shitty situation for you to be in, I would be devastated if my friend did such a thing. What I did find is that not many of my friends and family have been very understanding, so now I am careful as to who to divulge to and who to keep in the dark. This...
If you're going to regret not sending it then send it. However your friend has done a WHOLE WORLD of damage, sorry to say it! I have had exactly the same pattern of behavior from my friend (aside from the Facebook deletion) and it's pretty common when you start dating someone suffering from PTSD...
Ok so this rumour/you telling someone you has sex and didn't will be a very sore subject for her if her trauma was a result of sexual abuse so I can understand her heartache at this. This is the same with mentioning weight loss, although this intention may have been completely innocent it will...
How did you trigger her eating disorder? Also can I ask if her trauma is sexual abuse trauma? Sorry for all the questions I'm just trying to get a better background to better understand!
Thank you @BlueOrange and @Linzee :hug:
I actually don't feel terrible now you and another supporter have reassured me it's not the end of the world.
I didn't message anything that required a response, I just put 'I hope you're ok, here's a link to a funny video I thought you'd like'
The no...
@TheMinsterman yes that's kind of how I feel, I am actually very ok with the pure isolation, when I know he is really really not doing well and I can sense that but it's the bits in-between which are wobbly. When he's communicating but not, and he's not telling me that he's not 100% but he's not...
@scout86 I think he has an inkling as I've sometimes mentioned that I don't feel like guys want me and I don't know why they would. He always tells me I'm beautiful and funny and lovely and guys would be knocking on my door and that I'm going to get married and have beautiful babies. I just...
Thank you so much @Snowflakes and @Sweetpea76
I've had a think and I'm actually going to give myself a pat on the back in some respects. From the 2/3rd month in the PTSD was very clear so I did my own research, bought books, came on here in November, met him in September, I have continued to...
Question for all you supporters who have been doing it for a while.
Do you see a difference in the initial dating stages of your SO's to what you see new supporters writing on here or are the stories similar? Did you experience the Isolation? Did it get more infrequent and what were your...