This is so interesting. My partner was a child when his main trauma happened and went to escape into a computer game immediately afterwards. He while he has suffered many other symptoms has never suffered flashbacks.
Thanks so much Lisa. This makes a lot of sense to me. Nights are often traumatic for him. He's had pretty bad insomnia since the events way back when he was 11 and the computer gaming was his escape from it back then too. So it makes sense that the bills to cover the gaming would be a higher...
Can someone please tell me if PTSD affects a person's sense of time? My partner has probably had PTSD since he was about 11. Back in October we split up very briefly. He had a breakthrough and realised how badly he had been behaving and how much drinking had to do with it. He stopped drinking...
Hi all,
I'm really confused. I haven't been here for a while. A lot of the same has happened with my partner doing his raving 'nana every couple of weeks. Then something happened. I met some one I really, really liked. My partner sensed a change in me and eventually got around to asking me what...
That so reminds me of something I said to an old boyfriend when he said "let go of the anger". I said "I'd love to! But the anger WON'T LET GO OF ME!"
Heh. That got his attention. :smoking:
Annette
I just want to say that I totally agree. I've come here because I have nowhere else to go but responses are few and usually very slow in appearing. Often so slow that the situation I'm concerned about has passed.
Yeah I'm well aware of the codependency stuff about not making other people's decisions. It's all easier said than done but I've been practicing and I refuse to do as much for him as he would like. It's the verbal and emotional abuse that seems to come out of nowhere that upsets me the most...
It has been very stressful for him the last week or two because he's now at the point with therepy where Centrelink want him to jump through hoops to prove that he's agoraphobic and all the rest of it.
Look I understand what he's going through. I've always wanted him to do therepy. I want to be...
My partner just flipped out at me in a really scary way. I was actually indicating to him that I wanted him to hit me so it would be over and done with. I could call the cops and they would haul his ass away. He didn't hit me though. He just yelled as loud as he could just a centimeter away from...
I hope this doesn't sound mean but I have found myself thinking that DH might benefit from a little rest in hospital one day if he goes off the deep end again. He's just started therepy so he's doing that pretty regularly now. I just think sometimes that it would be good to take away all of his...
Thank you Anthony. I'm trying to get him to come to these pages but I don't know if he has or not. I doubt it. Anyway now we need to get it together with the appropriate payments with Centrelink. I've asked about a carer's allowance and I have the forms but with all my uni work I haven't had...
Thanks for the encouragement bec. I'm aware that the going will get harder before it will get better. I had to do a lot of self-healing from some shocks in my own life some years ago and I've really only just come out of that recently. I see it as a spiral. You have some good days but then you...
Hello everyone,
DH went to his first session with a psychologist today. I can't tell you how happy I am about that, and how proud I am of him. :claps: I've been trying to get him to do this since we met in 2001!:poke:
I have to say that I was also glad that I went into the session with him...
Thank you Bec. Hopefully he'll be in the right headspace to be able to do that over the weekend. Right now he and I are recovering from last night's little meltdown.
DH has not been to Work for the Dole because of agoraphobia and he hasn't called to explain because the phone got cut off. I went to Centrelink on his behalf this arvo and had one of those conversations that goes round in circles: "No he can't call because we have no phone. No, he can't come in...
Hi Jods, yeah I could do with a little less drama in my life though. I'm trying to finish a university degree so that we will evenutally have some money. Just informed Centrelink that he's having a bit of a crisis and they want to get all official about it. That's freaking me out a bit though...
Hello everybody,
My name is Annette and I am sure my partner has mental health problems related to childhood traumas but I'm not sure if it's PTS or PTSD or what little box he best fits into.:dontknow: I do see that he has symptoms in common with people here though and, having had some aweful...
Exactly! If they had an amputation then people might get it but I also think that people are frightened of feeling another person's pain or thinking about frightening things like how much our lives are at the mercy of luck and chaos.
Hello,
I'm from Melbourne, Australia and I am sick to death of people trying to tell me that my partner is just a bad guy and I should leave him. He is not a bad guy. He's a sweetheart but he is hurt and sick and sometimes angry and sometimes lost. He does not have narcissistic personality...