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    Relationship Husband with ptsd

    Even with all I've learned about PTSD, I still struggle with this one - how memories, even recent memories, can become completely distorted. I understand that people can remember things differently, but when it comes to the objective reality of how things happened (eg. we were happy together)...
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    Relationship Need emotional support..still miss him so much

    There's no timetable for healing. Take as long as you need.
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    Relationship What do I do now?

    Reading things like this are simultaneously validating and disheartening. On the one hand, it helps to not take things personally and to know that I'm not alone. On the other hand, it triggers a strong sinking feeling of: "Oh... I guess we didn't really have a 'connection like we've never had...
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    Relationship He stopped communication; will he come back?

    @Friday I think your post could be helpful to @AllConfused once she's clear of the initial blast. But right now I don't think she needs to hear, "Relax, it wasn't that bad." Of course, a breakup's not as bad as a rape or murder. But pain is pain, when you're in it. When you're violently sick...
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    General What are they thinking?

    @lostforgottensoul I just wrote this to someone in another thread. I hope it might offer some perspective on why it's so difficult to get closure for yourself and move on.
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    Relationship He stopped communication; will he come back?

    One day at a time, @AllConfused. Maybe he'll reach out again. Maybe he won't. And if he doesn't, it's going to feel like the end of the world for a while (but it won't be). The reason it feels like the end of the world at first is because it's not just heartbreak, it's lifebreak. It doesn't...
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    Relationship He stopped communication; will he come back?

    @AllConfused long enough to be embarrassed to say :) It’s been a couple years, but it’s not like I’m a wreck every day. I go through phases where the pain gets brought back up for whatever reason, or no reason, and that’s when you’ll see me pop back up on this site. For this time, I had a...
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    Relationship He stopped communication; will he come back?

    @SweetPainfulLoving You articulated my daily struggle so well. Wanting to (at long last) let it go completely. Not knowing how. Try to get angry and embrace a "who needs this shit?" mindset, and my compassion fights back. Try to be compassionate, and my anger fights back and says "who needs...
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    General What are they thinking?

    It really sucks that you guys were bailed on my some people who didn't take the time to learn about PTSD or just lacked the compassion to love you through the bad times. I was moreso thinking about past partners/friends who were making an effort, who were being loving and kind, and got pushed...
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    Relationship He stopped communication; will he come back?

    Do you ever... sometimes... eventually... get what they are talking about? Maybe even years down the road, while you're in therapy, looking back on things, and realize, "Oh wow... they were right. That really was shitty."
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    Relationship He stopped communication; will he come back?

    If it's of any comfort, it's highly unlikely he knew any of this was going to happen. You'd be surprised. It's not.
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    Relationship He stopped communication; will he come back?

    @Junebug You said nothing wrong :) You've been incredibly generous sharing your experience and offering your insight. It really is more comforting than you know. I can't imagine what it would be like for us blindsided ex's if this forum didn't exist, and if kind people like you didn't openly...
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    General What are they thinking?

    Thanks for being so open about what you've gone through, @Freida. I'm sure anyone in your life who got left behind while you were living your nightmare would appreciate hearing this from you as well.
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    Relationship He stopped communication; will he come back?

    Want to add a couple footnotes/disclaimers to @Junebug's post: Just because the other person isn't fighting for you, doesn't mean you're not worth fighting for. Just because other supporters in other relationships discussed on here bear some responsibility for the breakup, doesn't mean you did...
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    General What are they thinking?

    @LuckiLee I ask myself this a lot. I also ask it out loud in therapy every once in a while too. I don't know the answer myself, but some guesses I've made as far as it relates to my experience: -I think the emotional whiplash of it just f*cked with my brain, and has lodged the whole experience...
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    General What are they thinking?

    @LovingH I'm sorry you're in such pain. For what it's worth, my ex was over me almost instantly. The timeline went like this: -Madly in love with no problems with the relationship whatsoever. She calls it her dream relationship, healthiest relationship she's ever had, etc. -She suddenly...
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    Relationship He stopped communication; will he come back?

    @Junebug I know something a lot of us ex's wonder is... why not? Talking about the good relationships. If you were able to get to a point where you can look back on the decisions you made at the time, realize they were mostly a response to symptoms you were experiencing, and take an objective...
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    Relationship He stopped communication; will he come back?

    I'd be careful with the if only's. The truth is, it most likely wouldn't have made a difference. Just look at some of the stories on here by supporters who were with their sufferer for years and knew about their problems intimately, only to be met with the same truth: you can't help them. Only...
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    Relationship He stopped communication; will he come back?

    As non-sufferers we often think things like, "it's been two weeks, hasn't that been enough?" Because we think about these breakdowns in terms of what it's like when we are overwhelmed: we get away from the source of stress, we mellow out. But that does not seem to be the case when it comes to...
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    Relationship He stopped communication; will he come back?

    I have no idea what your boyfriend is going through, but I do know that when PTSD symptoms are activated, communicating his feelings to someone else is not even on their radar. First of all, they might not even understand their feelings themselves. Second, all of their energy and resources are...
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    Relationship He stopped communication; will he come back?

    This is eerie. You are almost describing word-for-word my experience with my ex-girlfriend. The thing that seems to make the biggest difference is whether or not they are in treatment. It seems to be a common refrain here, especially among sufferers: there's no such thing as a healthy...
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    Relationship He stopped communication; will he come back?

    Just wanted to validate your feelings and say yes, this is a familiar story told on here and I'm very sorry you're going through it.
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    Relationship Dating combat vet who ghosted

    Agree with @SweetPainfulLoving and @WinterCricket. I've gone through painful breakups before, but nothing that has left such a mark and created long-lasting issues related to trust and intimacy. If it weren't for this forum and my therapist validating the experience I went through, I'd...
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    Relationship Kidnapped and Sexually Assaulted Untreated Partner Left.

    @Jds_Trying All I can tell you my man is I'm sorry and I understand. These forums are excellent for making sense of what happened and depersonalizing the whole thing (even though you will always take it at least a little personally). Hey @lostforgottensoul, that describes my ex as well -...
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    Relationship Control creeping in again.

    I'd just like to jump in as a male without PTSD... this isn't normal. Like you said, this has nothing to do with PTSD. Us guys, no matter what our challenges, have no right to control any woman. I want to be respectful because I hear that he is the father of your child so of course this is an...
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