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    Dom Violence Am i responsible for getting my mother safe?

    I think a different phone company would let you transfer your number if you explain the situation. I am surprised as well with $2000 bill it's not shut off all of them. You're an adult right? You are free to leave your parents house. He can't stop you. If you really want, you can have police...
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    Dom Violence Help! in phx az - left him a year ago & still going through this

    Does he still contact you or you just hear about him from other people? If he contacts you file a protection order. Does he have any type of court ordered visitation with your mutual child? If not I would ignore him and any attempts he makes to contact you. If he does, only talk to him about the...
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    Dom Violence Why do we keep going back?

    Block him on everything - phone, social media. Don't answer if he comes by. If you have to get a protection order. I know it's just paper but then if he comes by you can have him arrested. Forget his feelings. He doesn't care about your feelings. There has to be some resources where you live...
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    Dom Violence Why do we keep going back?

    We go back (female OR male) because we think we change them. We think we can make them change into a normal person. That's the bottomline. My ex husband is a meth addict. He physically abused me three times in the five years I was with him (only married one year). In the last two years since...
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    Dom Violence I want to ask him why???

    I haven't heard from him in almost 2 or 3 weeks. He blocked me on Facebook. What relationship? We are divorced...because of his addiction. Same reason for why his first wife left. His mom called me upset he flipped out on her and was breaking stuff and I was concerned because she doesn't...
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    Dom Violence I want to ask him why???

    I have asked my ex why he hurts literally everyone he encounters. He has just told me he never meant to hurt me but it just seems to keep happening. No physical abuse in 3 years but emotionally...he's destroyed me. He got out of rehab (again) in August. In two weeks he asked if he could move...
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    Dom Violence Did you stay?

    First time my ex hit me I got a protection order and called the cops - but called a day later. So it turned into he said/she said. Two months later I dropped it because his family said he was getting help for drugs and blah blah. Got back with him and bam pregnant. Six months later He smacks the...
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    Dom Violence Okay so i cussed a little

    I had a PO filed when I divorced my ex husband on advice of the DV advocate at the time. But he hadn't been really violent at the time I filed. It was the one way to get him out of the apartment. It got approved but by the first court date for the divorce he had yet to be served. (He didn't show...
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    Dom Violence Toxic "out" laws

    So I found this phrase calling ex in laws "out laws" after you divorce your ex. His family has turned on me so drastically it's scary. They have yet to blame me for the abuse he inflicted in the past but his mom blames me for his relapses. He is in rehab now but I heard he was drinking and...
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    Dom Violence Okay so i cussed a little

    I wouldn't suggest collecting evidence "for" the police because it won't be able to be used in court. The defense will get it dismissed so fast you'll have whiplash because there's no chain of custody. If the police aren't doing their jobs, report higher. Go to their boss, then the next boss...
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    Toxic ex-in laws

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    Toxic ex-in laws

    So I realized why my ex husband is such a deeply disturbed individual - his mother is psychotic. We got into it because I have been telling her that my daughter wants to talk to her dad. He's staying with her until he goes to rehab and I found out today she thinks I want to talk to him so...
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    Dom Violence Back to the "i love you and going to change" stuff again...

    So the jerk kept the bail money. No one knows where he is. He didn't even call our daughter today on her b'day. She's 3. She asked for him. But before he left his mom's his oldest was there and he lectures the kid about smoking pot. Really??? I guarantee he's on a meth binge right now since he...
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    Dom Violence Being dehumanized

    I'm not sure how it's similar to the OP. I'm just trying to understand your post. So you always have wanted to go by your first initial but no one would so you changed your name to initial only? If you don't want people to call you by initial only then what do you want them to call you? It seems...
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    Dom Violence Helpling a family member

    I saw my mom this weekend at my brother's birthday party. She told me some more things that have happened. It just pisses me off and I really want to go and put this jerk in his place. She told me that two months ago he threw a mug at her and pulled her by the hair. He is so lucky I have too...
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    Dom Violence Married man

    You should probably read the last post from one of the moderators...
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    Dom Violence Married man

    It states that he is the legal father if he's on the birth certificate - as in putative father - but he has no rights until he goes to court to seek them. I'm really done with this because it's reaching no end. Every single search result I searched on this says exactly the same thing. Unmarried...
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    Dom Violence Married man

    "Could be" used against the mother. That's not the same as stating he has visitation RIGHTS. Because unmarried males have NO rights until they go to court!! I very highly doubt the judge is going to use that against her once finding out this was an affair and the guy is abusive. Yeah and the...
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    Dom Violence Married man

    I know the difference. I've been on many legal forums and have seen many posts about it. Legally the OP does NOT have to allow him to see the child until he has a visitation order. Legally he has NO rights to the child until he goes to court and establishes them. Being on the birth certificate...
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    Dom Violence Married man

    Lawyers have told me that. If a man is on the birth certificate he is the presumed father or putative father but until he establishes his rights in court legally he is not the father. The only way that a man is legally the father immediately is if he is married to the mother when the child is...
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    Dom Violence Leaving an abuser

    That's what abusers do - they manipulate people into feeling bad for them and that they are the victim and not the other way around. I used to feel like that toward my ex and one day I woke up and realized he may very well be a sociopath along with his addiction and he's become a person I don't...
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    Dom Violence Back to the "i love you and going to change" stuff again...

    Yes addiction does suck and I very much believe it's a choice. It's not a disease. He chose to use meth knowing it's bad. He continues to use it. He can quit. He quit for 3 years in prison. If he could go three years without it he can stop for good. He just chooses not to.
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    Dom Violence Back to the "i love you and going to change" stuff again...

    Until he does the parenting class online and mediation, parenting time is at my discretion. That's exactly what it says in the order. It's been two years - he hasn't done it. I have told him if he wants to see her when he gets out he has to come to where we are and I will meet him at a public...
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    Dom Violence Back to the "i love you and going to change" stuff again...

    That is so weird. I just wish I had put the bail in my name somehow if I knew he was going to rip me off it.
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    Dom Violence Married man

    No he doesn't just because he's on the birth certificate. That's one step - but legally for a man to get rights if he is unmarried to the mother he has to establish his paternity in court. Then they will order a DNA test to confirm, they will start a child support order and visitation will be...
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