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    General Cold/Distant with me, totally normal and happy with everyone else. Is he being honest?

    @lostforgottensoul @Freida Thanks for your kind advice. I’ll try speaking to him about distorted thinking. However honestly, so many people have tried to explain to him that relationships grow out of the honeymoon phase and into something more solid. Although it isn’t as exciting, It’s more...
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    General Cold/Distant with me, totally normal and happy with everyone else. Is he being honest?

    Thanks @Kubash16 and @Freida for the responses. Again, makes me feel loads better to hear it from a sufferer perspective. @Butterfly64 wish you all the best as well ♥️ This forum has been a great comfort for me for a while now, due to the sufferers on here that are so helpful with providing...
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    General Cold/Distant with me, totally normal and happy with everyone else. Is he being honest?

    Thanks @LuckiLee and @lostforgottensoul I will try and not to take it personal, in theory I understand it all. I guess it’s just hard to implement and to detach from my personal feelings. I have however given him loads of space and we only speak when he initiates it. Just to clarify, for him...
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    General Cold/Distant with me, totally normal and happy with everyone else. Is he being honest?

    Thanks for sharing @Butterfly64 So great to know other people’s stories, definitely makes me feel less alone! It’s not often that he isolates, but I think it really got to him to see a very similar event to what caused his trauma, right infront of his eyes. He’s told me that he’s isolating...
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    General Cold/Distant with me, totally normal and happy with everyone else. Is he being honest?

    Just spoke to him now. He told me that he feels a bit better because we haven’t been in contact much, meaning his mind is a bit more relaxed cause he has one less thing to think about. When I asked him to elaborate he said ‘it’s because I don’t owe anything to anyone’ Can someone please...
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    General Cold/Distant with me, totally normal and happy with everyone else. Is he being honest?

    @Kubash16 and @lostforgottensoul thanks yet again the two for your helpful and informative responses. It makes so much sense when reading it, yet while you’re in the situation and being somewhat shut out it’s not as easy. It’s really comforting to read what you guys are saying so thanks a lot...
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    General Cold/Distant with me, totally normal and happy with everyone else. Is he being honest?

    2 weeks ago my SO experienced something that was closely related to his ‘original’ trauma (the event that made him very unwell). He saw something right infront of him that reminded him very closely to what had happened in his past. These 2 weeks have been hell. I’m the first person he decided...
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    Feeling ‘nothing’ a symptom of PTSD?

    Thanks a lot @lostforgottensoul honestly it’s so reassuring to come on here and get the answers you can’t ask your SO. Thank you!
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    Feeling ‘nothing’ a symptom of PTSD?

    Thanks to both @lostforgottensoul and @Kubash16 for the informative replies. My partner recently experienced/saw something that reminded him of his trauma. Basically what happened to him he saw upfront and close. Ever since then he has been completely emotionally numb and he says he doesn’t feel...
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    Feeling ‘nothing’ a symptom of PTSD?

    sufferer says that most of the time he feels absolutely nothing OR just anxious and stressed. But no happy feelings at all really. Is feeling nothing a ptsd symptom? And if so, can anyone explain the mechanisms behind feeling nothing, I guess what I’m asking is WHY does it cause someone to feel...
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    I feel like my partners therapist. Can anyone relate?

    My partner is a very vocal person. He has GAD and PTSD (diagnosed). I am his safe person and he tells me absolutely everything. Every worry and anxious thought that ever crosses his mind, and there’s a lot of them. I am the one person he trusts 100%. I do sometimes feel like I’m his counselor...
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    So became cold and disconnected after therapy

    No one really needs to reply to my posts if it’s in any way irritating to them. I came here to ask about effects of therapy initially. No one really knows how our relationship has been for the past 7 years. It hasn’t been like this. Even after PTSD there has been plenty of times he’s been...
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    So became cold and disconnected after therapy

    @Friday of course I have. And of course I talk about it and dream it. I’m just trying to explain that it does get confusing. One minute he doesn’t want any relationship and next he is PUSHING to have one and putting lots of pressure on it. Like saying he needs to get married ASAP. Him and I...
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    So became cold and disconnected after therapy

    @Justmehere thank you I really do appreciate the response! You are right it’s an ongoing cycle although I think it has truly ended. I haven’t heard from him which is very rare. Our argument didn’t end well. Where my confusion often happens is that he says he cannot he in a relationship. So I...
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    So became cold and disconnected after therapy

    @Friday thanks for the input. When I wrote ‘just’ I didn’t mean to undermine it or even say ‘well it was JUST a chat.. how can that affect him’ I wrote ‘just’ because in my previous posts I had written he’s doing EMDR. I fully understand that there will be consequences on his mood. He went...
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    So became cold and disconnected after therapy

    @blackemerald1 Hi Thanks for the informative reply. I’m going to give him space. I don’t think I was being irritated. We had a bit of an argument because he was really unwell that day. Really symptomatic. And anything I said to him was like nails on a chalkboard. I didn’t know he was feeling...
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    So became cold and disconnected after therapy

    @Justmehere thanks for your reply. I’m okay with him not being able to maintain a romantic relationship atm. It’s him who thinks that a relationship will fix all his wounds and he wants someone to take the pain away, ‘catch his attention’ and make him feel better. Therefor tries to make it work...
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    So became cold and disconnected after therapy

    My SO went to therapy last week. They were just talking about trauma, no EMDR. After this he became extremely cold and distant towards me and our ‘relationship’. We discussed us (on his own accord) and was just adamant he didn’t want us anymore even the just the few days before therapy he was...
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    Relationship So becomes distant after every time we hang out

    By the way I will reply to you all properly tomorrow as today has been manic. Some of the replies really blew me away and gave me a dose of reality which I really needed, thank you all.
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    Relationship So becomes distant after every time we hang out

    How about ‘I wasn’t angry until you asked me!!!!!!!!’?
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    Relationship So becomes distant after every time we hang out

    @Snowflakes and @EveHarrington Thanks both. I understand that I keep asking the same questions, I am confused. And his behavior is confusing to me. His words and actions are all over the place. I don’t know what to think or believe. And another thing that gets me down is that I haven’t seen...
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    Relationship So becomes distant after every time we hang out

    @LuckiLee does any of that make sense. As in, is he symptomatic? Am I just being naive? Any long time supporters opinion or even sufferes are appreciated
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    Relationship So becomes distant after every time we hang out

    Sorry I accidentally pressed post reply. @LuckiLee, I don’t know he if actually feels nothing for me or is symptomatic. From what I can judge I’d say, maybe he is symptomatic because he can’t seem to let go. And he still WANTS it to work, but he feels nothing. I’d want someone who loves me...
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    Relationship So becomes distant after every time we hang out

    @LuckiLee thanks for your reply. I wouldn’t say he is nasty, but he says ‘I don’t feel anything for you’ sometimes he says ‘I just feel dead inside, I don’t feel much for anyone’ Is he symptomatic when he says this? Well... I’m fairly new to PTSD, yet I feel like I am very slow with...
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    Relationship So becomes distant after every time we hang out

    @Freida thanks ♥️ At the moment EMDR hasn’t affected him, after the session he said he felt sleepy lol. Like he was constantly yawning. He always said ‘I find the finger thing annoying, how am I supposed to focus on the finger and talk about stuff at the same time.. it’s distracting’ He’s...
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