@headshrinker89 you have no idea what this post means to me. It gives me a tiny bit of hope even though I am feeling more and more that there is none. Thank you x
Wow! This is sooo familiar. How interesting. I didn’t realise it was related to PTSD particularly but this is something my fiancé did/does often. Talks of us moving to other countries, renting instead of living in his house, buying something else...the works. Thanks @grimalkin really helpful stuff x
Thank you so much @wishball. I am having a very down day. I am in bed and I just can’t pull myself together today and I don’t feel strong or the steady ship I need to be for my SO, or anyone else in my life for that matter.
I shut everyone out today, I cancelled plans and buried myself in my...
I am so exceptionally grateful to this thread, and all of you! Sometimes it can just get so relentless and scary and then I remember, you are all here and we are all holding firm; supporters and sufferers alike, fighting back, standing as strong as we can. We reaching out for help, and catching...
Thank you once again @Freida. This is so incredibly helpful and keeps me feeling hope, and I just want to say from the bottom of my heart again how grateful I am to you.
Your grace and heartfelt, intelligent and complex sharing of your own experiences is so comforting, and so generous and I...
Wow @Freida this analogy is everything! I love it mainly because it is so full of hope and strength. I have learnt from my own fiancé and all of you lovely people on here that people who have been touched by PTSD are some of the strongest, bravest, most positive and life affirming people I know...
Wow I know this thread is a little old, but what a funny revelation for me. My man has done this so often in the last 2 years. Talking and talking about the same thing in circles. Not going to therapy and using me as a therapist. I like you know so much about certain elements of combat zones...
dearest @Freida, I second what @Sighs just wrote. What you share here, I see it as such a selfless act. I know it is hard when you feel like you are hurting your loved ones, but know you are also helping so many others and I am sure your loved ones would be thrilled to know that.
I know if my...
Hey @Freida i know it’s not the same because i don’t have PTSD but I felt entirely like you about going to therapy this week. I was really dreading it and I thought about Not going so many times. I felt like i hated her because i knew it was going to hurt going and I would have to answer tough...
I am so hopeful for when my fiancé gets home and we can talk and he might be able to see this too, and I can reassure him that it’s gonna be hard but we can make it through. I think he will be really pleased I found you guys and have been able to educate myself through other experiences.
We...
I know I have said it before but @Snowflakes puts it so beautifully ^^^ here. The bravery in sharing so openly, and helping so many of us even though you were going through your own stuff at the time is just remarkable and so very much appreciated.
Your words have helped me map, navigate...
Whoops @Warrior Chicken I pressed reply too soon! Anyway trying again!
For me this is so exceptionally helpful. Both you and @Freida on this thread have really helped me to unpick what my fiance might be feeling during an episode or a period of isolation.
He has definitely tried to explain...
This is quite interesting. My fiance has an issue with open doors as well. He is always telling me to shut the door. And he gets up to close them, although he also has issues with slamming doors, and loud bangs, and that is understandable.
HA!! My guy has been with his therapist for 17 years...maybe there is such a thing as too much therapy from one particular person?
I myself have swapped therapists over this last year because one was good for getting me through the time when he was in the combat zone and my new one is helping...
This is again as always @Sweetpea76 very reassuring to hear put in black and white. I really appreciate your descriptions. Thank you. Also I went to my therapist today and this forum has really helped me clarify what I want and neee to get out of therapy. So much insight and so much wisdom and...
I completely agree. It is amazing how the control of emotions helps so much. My fiance is isolating at the moment (has been for 5 weeks now) but when we are together he finds it incredibly difficult to deal with me crying or getting emotional. It just renders him helpless so he reacts really...
@BoyfriendqwithPTSD have you thought maybe he actually meant with you? To me that is what it sounds like. It seems very hopeful to me. That he has to get out the other side of this to be happy?
I could be wrong but that is how I read it. Sometimes people’s words don’t come out in the way they...
This post is really helpful and reassuring as before this isolation this sort of thing happened with us all the time.
Thanks @Freida and @EveHarrington.
Wow! This is just awesome @Freida best feedback I could ask for. Sorry I sent that message from my phone! I will use line breaks from now on! :) thanks for the tip.
1) yes he has been diagnosed with PTSD many years ago and we have talked about it at length in the past. He has been in therapy...
Hi @Freida, I also have a question or a comment that might require some insight. It has been 5 and a bit weeks since I spoke to my fiancé, but he has been text replying almost daily during that whole time. The replies are just in response to my messages. He says I’m ok, He has sent a few funny...