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    Tonight I'm Feeling Trapped

    Today is turning into one of those. I managed to do a few hours of work at a client this morning, and then was supposed to sit and do some computer work. Since the client was local, I rushed out of there. Now I am faced with all this work, and I just can't get started. It's like being out for...
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    Other Fibromyalgia - any experience?

    I don't want to be dismissive, insensitive or otherwise hurtful to anyone with fibromyalgia or rheumatoid arthritis. But these are diseases which, in many cases, can be cured easily by the mind. Hear me out. These diseases typically manifest AFTER a trauma or depressed state has set in. They...
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    Tonight I'm Feeling Trapped

    At the risk of making your agoraphobia worse, check to see if Criminal Minds is on Hulu.com or Crackle.com, or one of those sites that streams TV shows. At least you can reclaim your indoor hobby. Can you walk outside alone? Or is that too much? (I just had a day like that, so I am not being...
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    Need Advice, A Friend, Help, Anything, Pls

    You should go. You need time to determine a few things (and all of them require time away from him in order to do so properly): A.) Are you addicted to this situation? B.) Are you truly in love, or addicted to this person? C.) What is the nature of *his* problem -- answering this will provide...
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    Harness Your Inner Sociopath?

    Sociopathy is more common than you think. This is an interesting book: Dead Link Removed (Amazon link)
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    Urge To Cut Is Back

    Thanks, but for now the arm and I are agreeing to disagree, and the BIID isn't my top priority. Tattooing it seems to have settled it down (something I am thinking of studying and maybe writing up as a possible short term "easing" solution for other people with BIID. Or, it could be that I...
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    Unbecoming The Victim

    Then if you DON'T forgive, you are just leaving something festering in, as you say, your "emotional core". You remain "pretty split up into piece on the inside." Is that something you want? What is to be gained by holding onto that negativity? So surely you have to understand how forgiveness is...
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    ECT Therapy

    Unfortunately, it doesn't look like I will have many options for ECT in Peru, where I will be living. I was thinking of slipping the tech a few extra US dollars to add a few more volts, to ensure memory loss. I guess it doesn't work like that. (Kidding!)
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    Unbecoming The Victim

    Not really. That *IS* forgiveness. There is a difference between forgiveness and agreement. You forgive another by accepting what they did and releasing it, letting go. You needn't ever even TELL the other person. Forgiveness is done for yourself, not for them. And it does not require agreeing...
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    ECT Therapy

    Please keep us updated. I am interested in it because one of the side effects is memory loss, and if there's one thing I wouldn't mind losing, it's my memory.
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    ECT Therapy

    Thus part of the controversy with ECT, except that it has a far longer history of at least anecdotal, if not statistical, data to rely on. Still, whether or not ECT is effective remains a point of contention, too. That's why it's a choice of last resort for many.
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    ECT Therapy

    I was considering ECT and my therapist had a shiny new chair from the future in his office. He was a first adopter of the TMS technology, and said I was a candidate for it. Yes, entry fee is $10,000 and it's not covered by insurance. I was desperate, but fortunately I did some reading on it...
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    Sufferer My Husband Says He Is Leaving Me.

    Your husband may be having problems of his own, and may need some kind of help. It will be hard, but try to have some compassion for him, as you also have compassion for yourself. My PTSD came about after my wife got caught up in a cult, and the first round of traumas were the result of the...
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    Unbecoming The Victim

    That's EXACTLY right, and highly attuned. What we are SUPPOSED to do is forgive those people, forgive ourselves, and let go of all the urges for validation or (worse) revenge. Forgiveness gets us out of everything, and we are healed. Our damn ego and human nature keeps us from forgiving...
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    Urge To Cut Is Back

    Mine got so bad, I contacted a research facility that was doing arm transplants and offered to donate. They thought I was the most miraculous, giving guy in the world, to offer an arm. But they said at this stage they are only transplanting cadaverous limbs. They had no idea I just wanted rid of...
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    Can't Forgive Myself

    Without getting too off-topic and too new-agey, you are forgiven already because nothing ever really happened. You can PM me for more on that stuff, if you like, so the thread doesn't derail.
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    Urge To Cut Is Back

    Oops. Hope you didn't take that as an attack, Heather. Was just my opinion.
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    Can't Forgive Myself

    IAM forgiven. YOU ARE forgiven.
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    Urge To Cut Is Back

    I think your answer is boldly refreshing and honest. The fact is, anyone who says "I promise" is half-lying. We can only try. That is our mental state. We are not in a place to make promises to people, I believe. And we shouldn't ask people to promise. I have had so many therapists ask me to...
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    Urge To Cut Is Back

    Among other things, I suffer (although I wouldn't use that word) from BIID (body integrity identity disorder) where I feel as though my right arm does not belong on my body. In extreme cases of BIID, the person will self-amputate a limb, or cause injury to turn themselves into a quadriplegic...
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    When Therapy Causes The Ptsd

    You eat the crayons? How does that help? What colors do you recommend? (sorry, just kidding.) I just remembered. The "traumatologist" I saw who worsened matters was a student of Franklin Schultz, author of A LANGUAGE OF THE HEART (known, somewhat menacingly, as ALOTH.) She was following his...
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    Unbecoming The Victim

    I agree with Heather, that what you wrote (Ronin) is on the money. For me I can't get to: My ego still wants my pain validated, and so the war is between my mind and my ego. Guess who's winning...
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    Unbecoming The Victim

    I know almost every therapy eventually works towards turning a PTSD sufferer from a "victim" to a "survivor". This ties in heavily with my Buddhist reading, too. It's also the thing I am having the hardest time with. So long as I am still convinced I am a victim, I act like a victim, and...
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    When Therapy Causes The Ptsd

    I haven't tried any therapy in a park, or art therapy, or any of those out-of-the-box type alternatives. I am in a bad part of the country for good therapy to begin with, and no one has ever suggested anything like that. Until that post, I wasn't even aware to ask about that! Thanks for the...
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    When Therapy Causes The Ptsd

    My best results with any kind of talk therapy were with CBT. I have never had EMDR from a proper therapist, so can't comment. EFT is a great short-term stress reducer, for me, or when I need to "take my mind off" of something, when my brain gets stuck in a rut. If I can catch myself in time...
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