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    The 'Love Yourself First' Debate

    I like that you said that. Honestly, the Christian perspective on this is much more liberating (to me) than the more modern spiritualist version of it. At least "love your neighbour" is a clear instruction. I know I can't do it (because the damage done to me was rather extensive) but at least it...
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    PTSD and Trees

    I never though of it this way. Kind of interesting to hear a different perspective - I usually feel safer when there's trees around. Trees for me represent solidity, grounding. Standing firm. And of course there's a link to the Ents.
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    What IS Selfish… anyways? How do YOU define selfish? What does it mean to you?

    I think you can't put a value to a word like that. I think it depends on the outcome. A. "I was selfish and needed to hibernate" (self-care = Good!) B. "I was selfish and stole something" probably not good. Even scenario B. could have "beneficial" consequences if it means that the...
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    PTSD and Trees

    Might sound ultra-stupid, but I really feel like I get more unconditional love from trees than from humans. Not really wanting to put words to it, they just "are" there and literally don't go anywhere 😁
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    The 'Love Yourself First' Debate

    Hiya there forum dwellers and truth seekers, Someone recently posited a premise to me. You'll all be familiar with this - it is very pervasive specially in semi-spiritual niches. This idea that you should love yourself first and then you will attract love. Or in other words, that you should...
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    Why Are People Consumed By Politics?

    Sounds like addictive/escapist behavior to me. When I get OCD, I hyper-focus on something. I put all my focus on that, but that's usually my way of escaping other things. I can relate to spending hours researching news stuff though, but it was always avoidant behavior. Sporting events and...
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    Rage Against the World for the last 3 years

    Yeah, maybe this is also part of what adds to the inclination to judge... with an atmosphere so divisive, lack of discussion, judgement gets easier... To be honest, I also strike myself as an unstable nutcase, but I was already there prior to the whole outburst :P I hope there can be some...
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    Being brave - Bravery - every person in this community is brave . Whats the bravest thing you have done ?

    Maybe we can exchange? I could use some composure in my life. I'll give you some of my bravery in return for some composure :P
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    What are you having for dinner? (wanna share your recipe?)

    stroopwafels. They're cookies. I eat them when I absolutely don't feel like cooking. 😝
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    Rage Against the World for the last 3 years

    Hey gals, guys, forum people. Don't want to make this a political discussion. I just feel so incredibly frustrated. I have a tendency to isolate and I do so by negatively judging others. In the past three-four years there's been a LOT of ammunition out there for someone like me. Wars and...
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    Resentment

    Kind of agree with Weemie. He listened to you explain cptsd and didn't say anything. Do you think he'll say something later (when he's digested it?). It's kind of important to be able to listen to each other. Specially if you were explaining about cptsd. Resentment can have many roots, could...
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    The "I just can't today" thread

    Similar day here except the thought is: today (and most days) I just can't master (+ don't want to master) human interactions
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    Visa & International Traveling on disability

    😁 Sounds good Friday, I have most of those covered, so I feel a bit more at ease! I'll probably try the waiver, that's 90 days.
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    Being brave - Bravery - every person in this community is brave . Whats the bravest thing you have done ?

    I like your post @Weemie . I think actually admitting that we've never broken through our boundaries / comfort zone / whatever, is a way of being brave. And I can relate to the 'comfort zone' being rage or anger. I've had glimpses of bravery throughout life. Skydiving was a moment of being...
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    Last movie or tv series you watched?

    Roseanne, for the 100th time. I seem to always watch the same exact shows. Boring, I know. 😉
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    Your favorite books of all time. . . and a request for advice.

    Don't force yourself into reading anything. When I was a teen, my dad had Nietzsche in the bookcase, and I happened to be a major nerd with nothing else to do, so I read it. But in more recent years, I tried to read Tolstoy, Dostoevsky, and for the life of me I can't get further than page 2...
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    Visa & International Traveling on disability

    Hi old friends & forum folks, For the last four years I've been doing well - made lots of changes in my life. I'm able to live a more or less normal life. One of the things that has been helpful in my mental progress is hiking. I've hiked some 2500 miles since 2019. I would really, really...
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    Need advice involving gang

    This has happened. The physical harassment so far consists of them physically being present where-ever they go. If they hire an apartment, they will be nearby in a car. If they pitch a tent somewhere, they will be camping around there too. As far as actual threats, I don't know. So far they...
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    Need advice involving gang

    I understand Weemie, It is a case of this person being chased across national boundaries and intimidated by behaviors such as tracking devices on their vehicle, installing virtual cards, and publishing their status and location. They have also planted drugs and broken in to their personal...
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    Need advice involving gang

    Hi guys, girls, etc. I need some advice on a real life, sticky situation. It does not concern me. But I am concerned about the person who is being targeted. The police are already involved but have not been of much help. I'm looking for expert advice from someone who is savy about criminal...
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    How do I cultivate a sense of Identity at 35

    The weird thing is, I know my likes and dislikes, and my character is pretty well defined. But I can't seem to internalize my likes, my values, etc. I can't seem to believe that they really belong to me. For example I have had a couple of major accomplishments in my life, and I cannot feel proud...
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    How do I cultivate a sense of Identity at 35

    hi @mods, I wasn't sure where I could fit this one. Hi there dear forum dwellers. I’m still around, as it turns out I was hesitant to leave the forum. And now I know why: I still have some "minor" things to comb through. My question of the day is this. Is there any way you can get (back) in...
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    How to overcome self-pity?

    You have no idea the kind of stubborn person I am, haha. I will not embrace my self-pity. But I get why you guys see it that way and would advocate for embracing it or accepting it, or some thing like that. But sometimes (and this isn´t easy for people with PTSD) you have to make a clean cut...
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    How to overcome self-pity?

    Thanks Friday, I misinterpreted. That´s quite helpful! It never occurred to me to see the "child" version of me as powerful. But they DID overcome all of that trauma. You´ve basically put everything in a total opposite perspective, thank you!! Somerandomguy, I do appreciate you guys, and the...
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