Muttly
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So, I started my job not quite two months ago. I'm basically a supervisor. I can't hire/fire and don't schedule folks but after the managers leave, I manage the staff. The supervisor who trained me is 38 I think. There is an employee who is 18, seems young for her age and is super needy. She, T, clearly liked this supervisor (let's call him D) a lot. She follows him around at work, talks about him, etc. She did similar with me though and does it with others too.
But pretty soon it became clear that T was *very* attached to him and that he was at the very least, not setting good boundaries. At this point I know they hang out together, quite a bit, outside of work. I know she views him as more than a friend. She has his picture, with hearts around it, in her phone. When she's at work, and he's not, she is often texting with him... even though she isn't supposed to be using her phone.
I've talked with two of my fellow supervisors (A and R).One, A, I've talked very directly with and talked about reporting it to management. He wasn't comfortable doing that because D had once chose another staff to work with instead of A. A is worried it would look like retribution. According to A, A and R saw D and the girl hugging and kissing for their break one time. I haven't seen anything quite that directly inappropriate (for a supervisor/employee)
It's really triggery for me. Older man in a position of power, taking advantage of someone... ugh.He even has similar characteristics to my Dad (ugh ugh ugh) in some ways. I've been talking to my therapist about it. I've tried to post here and gotten locked up every single time. My therapist has said the situation plays into my old family dynamics. Something happening basically in the open but no one acknowledges and the inappropriateness remains a shared secret.
Last night T was following me around as I pulled tills. She asked me if I knew the new safe combo. It was a weird question coming from her. I said yes. She said D always forgets and she has to tell him what it is. There is absolutely no reason she should no the safe combo. D either told her, or she saw it while he was using it. If she's telling him the combo, he knows she knows. Given what I've observed of their interactions, it's totally believable.
I am going to report this. Today hopefully. From a logical, work perspective I'm covering my own ass. If it ever came out that she had it and I knew, I could get in trouble. From an emotional perspective... I'm relieved I have a solid reason to report it. I'm also triggered and stressed. Likely, I'm going to end up with a couple enemies out of this. Likely, D and T, will be able to figure out it was I that told. I'm also scared... I won't be believed? I'll get blamed? I'll ... I don't know. It gets all muddled in PTSD stuff
But pretty soon it became clear that T was *very* attached to him and that he was at the very least, not setting good boundaries. At this point I know they hang out together, quite a bit, outside of work. I know she views him as more than a friend. She has his picture, with hearts around it, in her phone. When she's at work, and he's not, she is often texting with him... even though she isn't supposed to be using her phone.
I've talked with two of my fellow supervisors (A and R).One, A, I've talked very directly with and talked about reporting it to management. He wasn't comfortable doing that because D had once chose another staff to work with instead of A. A is worried it would look like retribution. According to A, A and R saw D and the girl hugging and kissing for their break one time. I haven't seen anything quite that directly inappropriate (for a supervisor/employee)
It's really triggery for me. Older man in a position of power, taking advantage of someone... ugh.He even has similar characteristics to my Dad (ugh ugh ugh) in some ways. I've been talking to my therapist about it. I've tried to post here and gotten locked up every single time. My therapist has said the situation plays into my old family dynamics. Something happening basically in the open but no one acknowledges and the inappropriateness remains a shared secret.
Last night T was following me around as I pulled tills. She asked me if I knew the new safe combo. It was a weird question coming from her. I said yes. She said D always forgets and she has to tell him what it is. There is absolutely no reason she should no the safe combo. D either told her, or she saw it while he was using it. If she's telling him the combo, he knows she knows. Given what I've observed of their interactions, it's totally believable.
I am going to report this. Today hopefully. From a logical, work perspective I'm covering my own ass. If it ever came out that she had it and I knew, I could get in trouble. From an emotional perspective... I'm relieved I have a solid reason to report it. I'm also triggered and stressed. Likely, I'm going to end up with a couple enemies out of this. Likely, D and T, will be able to figure out it was I that told. I'm also scared... I won't be believed? I'll get blamed? I'll ... I don't know. It gets all muddled in PTSD stuff