Somewhere on this forum, where I can't now find, a Carer posted that she went to a therapy session with her Sufferer and the therapist said something along the lines of "a PTSD Sufferer can be abusive, that is part of the illness, and you have to accept it". While I agree in principle that abuse is a symptom of PTSD and that Sufferers can be abusive that in no way means you should accept abuse because your Sufferer has PTSD. Understanding the illness and learning how to set boundaries to 'control' the abuse projected at you is part of the process but please, don't for one minute, think that you have to sufferer abuse at the price of 'acceptance of that is how it is'. I am married to a PTSD Sufferer and we have been together over 3 1/2 years. He may have been mean at times of great stress and illness and may have isolated or used unacceptable language but over time all of that has diminished and, at no point in time, will I ever think that PTSD gives he the right to treat me badly, let alone abuse me. Full stop. Sorry but I am really passionate about this and it goes for both men and women. If you have a illness and sufferer that is terrible but that does not give you the right to mistreat any other human being using the illness as an excuse. For a therapist to say such a thing is disgusting (if I read it in the right context).