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Amhoarten
I have a friend who I have become really close to. She shared her story with me and over the last few months we have become close. Out relationship has grown into love. If she has flash backs or gets triggered when I'm with her I know how to help her. I talk her out of it by using the grounding techniques along with gently talking to her with my hands holding hers. If she has body memory pain I massage the area while trying to bring her back to the present. Telling her I knowing feels like now. Telling her now she's safe and it's just us. She is safe. When we are apart we message all the time. She lets me know how she's feeling. If she's bad I can sometimes talk her back but when she has painful body memories I find it hard to help her in any way. It hurts her so much. I can tell she's getting into a panicked state. How can I help through messages? Are there any strategies that I could suggest she tries? She knows she needs to ground but when she's tired and the pain is so bad she is just not able to. It hurts me knowing I can't be with her. If I was there she would be ok. I can't cope knowing I'm letting her down. Can anyone help me help her?