Hi all,
Currently trying to figure this one out. My wife's abuser insists to her family that he cannot now remember the most serious incidents of abuse he committed 20 years ago. He remembers the terrible but legally speaking less serious incidents. The thing is he admitted to them ALL at the time.
I understand him blacking out being found out etc but is it possible for someone to completely forget abusing someone? I know that this can happen to victims. Now my wife's family are saying (if you can believe it) that the trauma her abuser experienced in committing the act made him blank it out! (it's nice how they take his side even though their is no doubt about what he did). Surely it wasn't a traumatic moment for him so this is not the reason.
I think he is full of BS but the reason I ask is if this is possible then it brings up more worries. I mean what if he continues to have these "black outs" which result in further abuse to others. The police now think he is low risk which I think is ridiculously (at the time they interviewed him for under 10 mins, he admitted everything, multiple counts of multiple acts and they gave him a CAUTION!!). Supposedly they believed all the crap he told them in not being a respectable citizen and not being a risk anymore but in not remembering that makes the risk high as even, if by chance, he is telling the truth to the best of his ability then there are still gaps which they cannot account for.
Does anyone have any insight into this, is he actually suffering from some kind of amnesia that he really should get checked out or is he just lying and trying to play the victim as per usual?
Currently trying to figure this one out. My wife's abuser insists to her family that he cannot now remember the most serious incidents of abuse he committed 20 years ago. He remembers the terrible but legally speaking less serious incidents. The thing is he admitted to them ALL at the time.
I understand him blacking out being found out etc but is it possible for someone to completely forget abusing someone? I know that this can happen to victims. Now my wife's family are saying (if you can believe it) that the trauma her abuser experienced in committing the act made him blank it out! (it's nice how they take his side even though their is no doubt about what he did). Surely it wasn't a traumatic moment for him so this is not the reason.
I think he is full of BS but the reason I ask is if this is possible then it brings up more worries. I mean what if he continues to have these "black outs" which result in further abuse to others. The police now think he is low risk which I think is ridiculously (at the time they interviewed him for under 10 mins, he admitted everything, multiple counts of multiple acts and they gave him a CAUTION!!). Supposedly they believed all the crap he told them in not being a respectable citizen and not being a risk anymore but in not remembering that makes the risk high as even, if by chance, he is telling the truth to the best of his ability then there are still gaps which they cannot account for.
Does anyone have any insight into this, is he actually suffering from some kind of amnesia that he really should get checked out or is he just lying and trying to play the victim as per usual?