After nearly two years with my love, where he has always been hopeful, trying and doing everything he could, telling me he loved me more than anything, he has now expressed that he has lost hope that we can be together.
He says I don't let him calm down, don't give him space when he needs to (after he's attacked me and been very unkind.) I have done my very best to work on my patience, but I do relapse into calling him or writing him when he said he needs to calm down, or missing the boat and keep talking when he can't. He says that causes him unrelenting flashbacks and he can't be subjected to that anymore.
I've had a hard time taking the blame for him having flashbacks but I am willing to concede that me getting in touch with him when I shouldn't is damaging. I'm doing and trying everything I can. But now that he has basically lost hope it can work, I don't know how to position myself anymore.
Have anyone of you been there - your sufferer losing faith in you like that? Did you come back from it?
He says I don't let him calm down, don't give him space when he needs to (after he's attacked me and been very unkind.) I have done my very best to work on my patience, but I do relapse into calling him or writing him when he said he needs to calm down, or missing the boat and keep talking when he can't. He says that causes him unrelenting flashbacks and he can't be subjected to that anymore.
I've had a hard time taking the blame for him having flashbacks but I am willing to concede that me getting in touch with him when I shouldn't is damaging. I'm doing and trying everything I can. But now that he has basically lost hope it can work, I don't know how to position myself anymore.
Have anyone of you been there - your sufferer losing faith in you like that? Did you come back from it?