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Changing Therapeutic Relationship

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Crow

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Therapy has gone from me wanting to run out the door and being angry at T to looking forward to our time. Yesterday T commented that the quality of our connection has really improved. Yesterday felt like a really deep, meaningful conversation. Not a one sided rant on my part. That's really nice.

T also made the point that I'm building a secure home environment - something I've not had. The friendships and romance will come later. I have to build the foundation that was never built. That had me feeling really good about where I am.
 
Dear @CrowFeather , do you mean your home is stable? Could I ask, do you have family? (It's ok not to say.)

That is wonderful btw (the most important part to say. :tup: :hug: )
 
Hi @Junebug . Stable is part of it. But I achieved the stable part a few years ago. I think in developmental psychology the idea that a child needs to feel safe and loved in a home in order to have the right environment for the vital building blocks is more what I'm talking about. I've forever not wanted to be where I am. But now I love being at home. I bought a rather rub down condo a few years ago and I've begun to fix it up. There's order. I'm working on cleanliness. I don't have family except for my cats.

So I guess I'm talking safe, comfortable, secure over stable.
 
Yes. :laugh:

Thank you @CrowFeather . So an external change & conditions (based on knowing how you feel about those changes, ie does it help or hinder, what makes you tick), that brings a '1st ever' feeling of safety, security, & internal peace(fulness)?
 
Honestly I think the catalyst is more the healthy attachments I've formed lately. I think this 'secure' thing is actually healthy attachment to my home. I guess everything is energy so whether a person, cat, car, or house....secure attachment is essential for healing and mental health.
 
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