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Combat pstd bf isolation behavior

Discussion in 'Supporter (Anonymous)' started by Ehipu, Nov 23, 2017.

  1. Cucel

    Cucel Anonymous

    You’ll be fine. Just take some time for yourself for a while. Give him time and space to heal. Set boundaries for if he returns ie, I’m not going to be treated like that again, for us to move ahead you must seek therapy. It’s time for you to start healing.
     
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  3. Buho

    Buho Anonymous

    My bf and I are barely speaking, him needing to get himself together after a big, prolonged episode. Me being the supportive girlfriend, you know, I took a large step back and it's been several weeks. Feels like we're not even really a couple anymore. Just yesterday I saw that he had a performance on freakin live television in the meantime. Didn't even tell me about that. And he is fine to go out with friends and colleagues. But can I come over? Nope. Can we talk about what is going on here? Nope. Can we make a plan for the future? Nope. THAT is too stressful, sure, not getting on live TV for the world to see.

    Still tells me he loves me every day. I do get what's going on with him. I just sometimes wonder if he actually thinks this is an acceptable status quo.
     
  4. Micahu

    Micahu Anonymous

    Every time he talks to me like I’m nothing just gives me less hope that he’ll come back around. I need a reset. Thank you.
     
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  5. Ehipu

    Ehipu Anonymous

    I’m also going through a no contact (unless necessary) period; and it’s only by text. I’m concerned that he won’t return, or if he does, he won’t be the same person I knew. I’m prepared for either because I’ve decided that if he can’t cope with life issues or be willing to learn how to better cope, then there’s nothing more I can do. I’m trying to be a supporter to the best of my ability and I’ve made a few mistakes, but I can’t keep being made to feel guilty and as if I’m a terrible person. He is a wonderful guy who usually was able to cope, but now he seems to be struggling. According to him, there’s nothing wrong with his mental health, but I definitely see some concerns just with the way he’s behaving now. It’s saddening to see the decline in resiliency and luster. He used to be so glad to see me and so happy to know that I would be with him; now he says he can’t see me and doesn’t want to talk to me right now; he needs more time. He says I violated his trust which is a big no no, and I admit to speaking too much on his behalf; I understand this to be a major concern for sufferers. I apologize to him and all sufferers for not knowing what’s allowed and what’s not. Communication is key!
     
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