I am totally new to this site and looking for information on combat PTSD and how to help someone that has it. The man I have been in love with and supported over the past two years is back from Afghanistan and dealing with PTSD. He told me when I met him that he already had PTSD from being in Iraq but we didn't seem to have issues. Now that he is home his behavior has been erratic and sporadic. After almost a month of no contact we finally talked for an hour last night. He seemed to be having flash backs and talking to others and then would say sorry I was just remembering something. He told me he sleeps all the time and the rest of the time he was drinking but he has stopped that because he doesn't need those problems on top of everything else. I have been very encouraging and I generally do not take offense when he gets angry or needs alone time, but this idea of triggers is something new to me. Could Memorial Day have been a trigger for him? How do I find out what are his triggers? I basically came up with the idea that I had to put my romantic ideas on hold and for right now just support him as a friend but will there ever be a time when we can have a romantic relationship? I do a pretty good job at taking care of myself but I a looking for a in person support group in my area. Any suggestions or insights anyone has that will help him and me would be greatly appreciated.