My Traumatic Stress - A New All Trauma Community If you're having a difficult time with a minor or major traumatic event, not PTSD specific, we now support all trauma types at My Traumatic Stress community. No diagnosis required. Hi everyone - Obviously I am new to this forum. I decided to join after searching locally for some support groups and finding relatively nothing nearby. I have a long story, but I'll give the Cliffs Notes version. My husband, an ex-military officer, has been suffering from PTSD since a combat-related incident in 2005. He was diagnosed in 2008 during a second deployment. He left the military in 2009 and entered the civilian world. He was going to therapy at the VA, and finally agreed to try medication (Zoloft) in 2010. He also struggled with alcoholism since the incident. In 2011, he had a minor surgery which started his addiction to painkillers. I did not find out about this addiction until almost 18 months later. Thankfully there were no legal troubles but we are 45K poorer as a result. He agreed to go to detox/rehab. While there, it was determined that his drug and alcohol abuse and addiction is directly related to his PTSD. I understand that this is very common, as a means of self-medicating or escape. He spent almost 90 days in the Inpatient recovery, and was discharged. However, he chose (because this was given to him by the facility as an option) to remain seven states away, find a rental apartment, and stay down there for a length of time TBD to continue outpatient treatment. This decision was made without any consultation or discussion with me, as his wife, as to how this would work financially and realistically. In my humble opinion, a better option would have been to enter an inpatient PRRP PTSD program at the VA. There's a very good one in our home state with an excellent reputation. And it would have not cost us anything. I also wonder, if his PTSD is so severe and delicate right now, is it really prudent for him to be living on his own? So, he's seven states away. I am down to just my income, struggling to pay the bills. We cannot have a pleasant conversation because everything I say, is taken as a personal attack. I'm at the point where I don't even want to talk to him. I can't see an end in sight to this - he doesn't even seem like he wants to get better at all. Lately he has just been outright nasty to me. That's not happened before. I have to be realistic about my own life - I'm 34, we have no children, and I'm generally pretty stable in most regards. I'm working on myself too, through studying yoga (living yoga, not just on the mat). I do love my husband, he is a wonderful man. But the PTSD and Addiction have made him unrecognizable. I am doing my best to understand these diseases/afflictions. So here I am, hoping to learn more about PTSD, depression, anxiety, addiction. Maybe I just want to hear from other people that they are going through the same thing. Maybe I just want to hear that there's hope...I'm not sure. But right now, my husband treats me like the enemy. I've already forgiven him openly for the drug addiction, secrecy, lies and money spent. Thanks for reading, hope to make some connections soon.