Friday
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Is it wrong to be upset by "just" tactlessness and judgments about you/something you've done/made? Am I missing the point entirely here, I feel like I must be. :/
I don't think it's ever "wrong" to be upset by something, per se. But it is, however, a choice at some point. Like I can be upset about child rape. Because I believe it to be wrong, I'm all for being absolutely furious about it. That's the whole point : emotions coinciding with my own belief structures. Instead of my emotions being manipulated to change my belief structures.
That's the inverse. If someone wants to criticize my belief that baby rape is wrong? Have at. Go ahead. That's gonna gain exactly zero traction.
They can be as abusive, manipulative, persuasive, calm, rational, obnoxious, persistent, as they like. I don't give a damn. Their criticisms are not gonna touch my belief structures. They're not gonna change the way I feel about myself, or my belief structures... Unless. I. Let. Them.
I chose a pretty set in stone thing to make an example of... But all criticisms fall under the same guidelines. Whether it's about my being late (true or untrue), my being ugly (true or untrue), my being... Anything. The only way that can actually affect me emotionally? Is if I let them. I have to agree to let them influence me.
80's Cult Movie Classic Quote (Labrynth) :
"You have no power over me."